Post # 1
I’ve recently noticed a number of friends, who, after getting married, dump their old email accounts and switch to a joint one, ie. instead of mary.lee(at)gmail.com, their email becomes marynjame(at)gmail.com. It’s not an additional email, either, it’s a replacement.
This whole idea baffles me as I have never had any desire to share a common email account with FI. Not that I have anything to hide, but my email is my own space! If a girlfriend writes to me about some stuff she’s dealing with, I want her to know it’s just between her and me!
Can anyone shed some light for me please? What makes some newlyweds ditch their personal email for a joint one?
(Edited to prevent some poor innocent person getting spammed because of a name I made up!)
Post # 3
Hmm…not sure why they would ditch their own email for a joint one, but I can see the advantages of having a joint email. Especially when you have online bill pay and the emails are coming to one place. Other than that…I have no idea!
Post # 4
I personally find this so strange and codependent. A Facebook friend of mine from college recently sent out a message to her entire list saying she and her husband were deleting their profiles and creating a new joint one “JohnMichelle Smith” and to re-add them. I did not. LOL.
Post # 5
Because they think it looks cute…I guess.
Post # 6
@ohheavenlyday: so weird. I have noticed some older people (aunts and uncles who aren’t familiar with the internets) doing this, which I can sorta understand, but if you already had facebook as a single, why would you do something like this?
Post # 7
I think it’s like sharing a toothbrush.
Email accounts are free – everyone can have their own. I think the joint emails/FB accounts are way too cutesy and kind of immature. Think about applying for a job (or any type of serious email) do you really want to send your resume from something like JaneLovesKenny @ yahoo.com??
Even if you needed it for bill pay or something – just use one persons email that both ppl have the password to.
Post # 8
I get having a joint account (though my husband and I don’t have one). It would make sense to use it for things like online bills and banking that require an e-mail account.
But my husband and I just never saw it as a need. Since I am the one that does the bills, we use my e-mail account for those kinds of things. We both have each other’s passwords and can sign on to the other one’s account, if necessary (though that rarely happens). If he or I get an e-mail we think the other should see, we just forward it.
Post # 9
I don’t get it. I mean most of the time I order my FI’s presents on amazon or some other site. If we shared an e-mail address, he’d see the confirmation e-mail for his presents.
Post # 10
back when we first got the intarwebz in 1997, we had one e-mail account that was for THE WHOLE FAMILY until i finally went and got my own and it baffled my parents because they didnt’ even know how to get another one.
it just seems like… an old person thing.
and FI (sitting next to me) says it’s just an invitation for drama and disaster. he can see old exes who want to make waves just sending random stuff or rants or innuendos to the e-mail to bug the other person.
Post # 11
That whole concept seems weird to me. FI and I share many things but an email account will not be one of them. We have absolutely nothing to hide from eachother but having seperate email addresses just seems logical. FI doesn’t care about the latest featured weddings that I get emailed about daily just like I don’t care about some stupid tech garbage that blows up his phone multiple times an hour.
My parents actually do have a joint email account but they’re late bloomers. They just got their first email address about 3 years ago and before that they didn’t even really use the internet. It’s primarily my moms account since my Dads not that computer savvy but he does use it occasionally.
Post # 12
Actually, come to think of it, I think I’d find it really confusing. If I read a new email, for example, it would come up as being “read” by the time FI/DH checked it. And vice versa. It just seems to create more problems than it solves!
Post # 13
My FI and I have been thinking about starting an additional joint email account for wedding related things that come in or for joint checking accounts/credit cards/bills, but what baffles me are the people who give up their personal emails and ONLY have a joint email (my friend and her hubs did this). We live far away and now I can’t send her the long “catching up” emails we used to send each other because it feels weird knowing her hubs is probably reading it. Awkward.
Plus, does FI need to get all my silly email subscriptions that I sign up for?! I’d rather keep that to myself. 😀
Post # 14
@KatNYC2011: Oh yea, my friend referenced in my post above created her own email to organize a surprise party for her hubs and then deleted the account after the party was over. Seriously, what’s the point of a joint account if you have to constantly create/delete personal ones?!
Post # 15
My FI and I share an email address. We use it as our main contact for all wedding stuff. I deleted my old email address because…well.. my friends have my phone number.. if they need to get in touch with me they can call/text/fb…in addition.. I had a lot of spam on my email address.. For me, its just practical. I want all the wedding stuff in one place. FI has his own that he has had since like middle school.
Post # 16
add on question– if you keep your own email- would you share passwords?