Jr-ish bridesmaid cant make bridal shower because her parents booked vacation?

posted 3 years ago in Family
  • poll: Move the party to accomodate the JR-BM?
    No, don't move it. : (148 votes)
    99 %
    Yes, move the party... its annoying and you'll have to re-invite everyone else to it - but do it. : (1 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
    6632 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Keep your shower the same date.  It is not a requirement that all in the bridal party be at these things. The only requirement is to show up for the wedding. 

    Post # 4
    3778 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I don’t see the big deal in her missing the bridal shower. it’ll probably be boring for her anyways. Also I don’t see why your Aunt and Uncle are at fault. They probably figured it was an okay time to go since it was before your wedding.. and not on your wedding day.

    Post # 5
    3199 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @EmeraldTiger:  eh, don’t change the date of your shower.

    i have 6 BM’s. four are not making it to my shower, because one is on vacation, two are too far away and the fourth is going to her boyfriend’s uncle’s birthday something-or-another. i was kind of hurt by the last one, but it’s her loss. whatever.

    but i digress. it’s not a huge deal, don’t change the date of your shower.

    Post # 7
    1463 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Wow, seriously, what is the big deal?  She is a “junior” bridesmaid, not your MOH. 

    Post # 8
    505 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @Woodstock:  +1. i’ve never been to a shower where all the BMs were in attendance… also, a combo bridal shower/bachelorette?! should this 12 year old even be included in the bachelorette?!

    Post # 9
    931 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I don’t see how this is even an issue?  It really isn’t a big deal for her not to be there…

    Post # 10
    2818 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Actually, were this my thread, I’d be wondering “What is a nice way to ensure that my 12 year old cousin does NOT attend my bridal shower/bachelorette party?”


    Post # 11
    907 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Why does she have to be there. The shower is for you, not for her. Keep your original date, and have a great time. Showers aren’t mandatory for bridal party members. 

    Post # 12
    3667 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I’m confused — we’re supposed to designate “junior” vs “regular” bridesmaids based on height?

    Keep the date of the shower. One of my bridesmaids didn’t go to either of mine (and she’s an adult, not 12).

    Post # 14
    2818 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @EmeraldTiger:  correct. I wouldn’t want a 12 year old hanging out with me and my girlfriends. I think its sweet that she’s in the wedding, but I see bridal showers and bachelorette parties as opportunities to talk loud, drink lots and let your hair down. I wouldn’t do any of that in front of little kids or old people.


    Post # 15
    550 posts
    Busy bee

    It’s for the best that she’s not going to be able to make it, IMO. Enjoy your party and take her out to lunch before the wedding!

    Post # 16
    2876 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 1998

    TBH she probably wouldn’t want to go anyway. I can’t imagine any 12 year old being overly thrilled going to any adult function. I wouldn’t worry about her not being there!!

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