Judging Invites a bit harshly :(

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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3222 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

MissOtter:  that’s tough to deal with, especially when you were already feeling insecure about something, but it’s just what happens when you show things to people. Unless you’re explicit (“this is the final draft and we will not be changing anything moving forward”), it’s going to come across as you soliciting advice, especially from your bridal party.

I’d take the comments as not judging, but simply them trying to make sure your invites are perfect. 

 

 

Post # 3
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743 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse

MissOtter:  So, from my understanding you only wanted them to coddle you?  You didn’t want actual thoughts – meant to be constructive?  You just wanted them to blow smoke?

I don’t understand why you asked them then?

Post # 4
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1362 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

If a bride posted it for me to see before they went out, my initial thoughts would be that she wants my opinion.  Sorry they didn’t completely love them. 🙁

EDIT: Also, I don’t think they were being harsh AT ALL.  They seemed to be very nice about their suggestions.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 8 months ago by  LMD.
Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

I realize you’re invested in your wedding planning process… but in the grand scheme of life, this really doesn’t matter. At all.

Most of your invites are going to get tossed out anyway. I think I’ve kept maybe one wedding invitation from a wedding I attended. They have a purpose… which isn’t simply to look pretty.

If you care about one or two people nitpicking tiny details of something so small as wedding invitations, you’re going to have a hell of a time planning this wedding.

I am sure they look just fine. Even if they didn’t, then so what?

Post # 8
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2871 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

MissOtter:  Hey, I feel ya. Sometimes we just want people to be excited for/with us! It’s disappointing to get a different reaction than what we expected/hoped for. But brush it off and send out those invites! You’re going to have a great wedding!

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t think what they said was all that bad, anyway.  You asked for their opinions, and you knew they are both “pretty critical” (your words) of things, so I’m not sure what you expected.  I’m sure they look fine, and as long as your guests show up where they’re supposed to, they served their purpose, whether or not the green was overpowering or the Y looked like it was struggling.

Post # 11
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1112 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

That is a super cool idea for your invitations!

Post # 12
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7997 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

MissOtter:  Exactly!! This isn’t worth making yourself miserable.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

It would’ve been nice if they had just said “cool” and left it at that. But, since you noticed the same flaws they did, it’s not really fair to be upset at them for noticing it too. Are you willing to post the invites here? It sounds really set the way you had each person write a line. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee

MissOtter:  I’m sorry, I might have interpreted it like they did and thought you wanted comments. They probably thought you were looking for opinions, which sometimes means a little bad with the good (and it sounds like there was only a little bad). It’s pretty much impossible for everyone to love something equally, since we all have different taste.

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