Post # 1
I am having my wedding in July, on a beach. The wedding will be at 7 PM, which won’t quite be sunset, but it will be a lot more cooled down outside. Plus, there will be an ocean breeze.
Our reception is in an upscale venue. I expected that the groomsmen would wear black suit pants. I don’t care if they forego the jackets, but they need the black pants and white button-up shirt with tie. The wedding is only going to be fifteen minutes long (after that, they’ll be inside with the air conditioning).
Both my mom and FMIL are now saying that I need to have my groomsmen in khaki shorts and unbuttoned, loose white shirts, because it is too hot for formal wear.
What do you guys think? It is really, really hard having a beach wedding and a formal reception.
Post # 3
I have the same time/location and my fi is set on wearing a khaki suit with jacket and a linen shirt, no tie. I hate it and want him to wear a black suit but he refuses. I don’t think it’s a big deal… but I guess you just got to go with what your man wants. I have ac in the venue too
Post # 4
I think suits or tuxes are doable at 7 PM at the beach. Even in summer, the beach can be freezing cold in the evening because of the breeze. At every evening beach bonfire I can remember, I ended up wearing jeans and a hoodie.
Our wedding is at a beach – not right on the sand, maybe about 70-100 yards back from the beach – at 6:00 PM and the groomsmen are all wearing tuxes (FI’s decision, actually, not mine – I told him I didn’t care what they wear as long as they don’t look like bums).
I think you will be fine – can you look up average temperatures at certain times of day for the specific beach where you’re getting married?
Post # 5
I still think you can do a formal wedding on the beach. As you said it will be cooler at that time, there will be a breeze off the water, and they can take their jackets off for the reception and roll up their sleeves.
Post # 6
I’d tell mom/FMIL that there is something in between a full tux and shorts/open shirts. We’re doing the guys in gray pants/vests and no jacket. See if you can find black pants made of linen–it will breathe easier and be a lot lighter than traditional tux/suit material, but in black or charcoal will look every bit as formal.
Post # 7
@GreenGables: Good idea! I am going to check the almanac now!
FI actually wants to wear a tux. He is the one who chose the July wedding, so he doesn’t mind it. The groomsmen haven’t complained, at all, either. In fact, FCIL’s DH already has a black tux so he’s happy that he doesn’t have to buy anything.
Post # 8
Mines in July right across from the beach at 430, so itll be pretty hot im guessing, but hopefully a breeze (fingers crossed) anyway, my venue is upscale as well so my guy is wearing a tux 🙂 he can take of the jacket as soon as the ceremony is over anyway! (and i dont think he really cares)
Post # 10
What beach is this located on? That might make a difference. A beach in Florida in July will be very different than a beach in, say, Delaware. Also, I think your Mom(s) needs to kindly bugger off about what your FI and groomsmen will be wearing. It’s really not their decision as it’s not their wedding and they’ll not the ones wearing it. I think black pants and white shirts/ties are a nice compromise, especially since the venue is more formal.