Post # 1
I really need some opinions here! I am engaged to an amazing African-American man and I happen to be a Caucasian woman. I have always been brought up to treat everyone equal. However, I grew up in a very, VERY small town that was a predominantly (think 97%) white community. The tradition of Jumping the Broom was something I did not know about until I moved away from my home town. It is very important to him and his loved ones that he “jumps the broom” when we get married next year. I have no problem doing this but I do have some concerns. I have witnessed this tradition and it was quite joyful! It reminds me of the breaking of the glass in a Jewish ceremony (which, by the way) I had also never witnessed until I moved away! However, I have read up a bit on the jumping the broom tradition and found that the origin is from the time of slavery. Is it disrespectful for a white woman to jump the broom? I have no personal objection but I do not want to offend anyone. My loved ones have all had very simple wedding ceremonies with very little nod to tradition just the officiant does the ceremony and a reception follows. I do NOT want to take this away from him but I am really concerned with offending someone on accident. Should I mention the reasons for Jumping the Broom in the program? Just do it when the officiant says to and not mention it otherwise? Thoughts? Suggestions? BTW his mother is all for me jumping the broom. Any feedback is greatly appreciated!
Post # 3
I am half white, half Cuban, and FI is African American. I had some of the apprehensions you did, but we are jumping the broom with the blessing of FI’s family. For his family, it is like you said – a joyful tradition. All his family members have jumped the broom so it is important to him. Creating a multicultural family in a way that honors your ancestors can never be offensive. If people are, they don’t understand the purpose of the tradition. It’s not about dwelling about past injustice but honoring where you’ve come from, and that’s something you can join in as a new member of your FI’s family!
Post # 4
We’re jumping the broom. He’s white and I”m black. If ppl take offense to you two jumping the broom then honestly something is very wrong with those people. First off you’re marrying a black man, 2nd slavery was so long ago and not to take anything away from it because it was an absolutely horrid time for black people but i’m really tired of people trying to play that card as an excuse for everything. Life is what you make of it. If people choose to keep dwelling on it then I feel sad for those people. It’s 2010. If more people started embracing each other’s backgrounds, traditions, differences, and cultures…we would be living in harmony. I think it’s beautiful that you’re an interracial couple. I say go for it!!
Post # 5
it depends on you and your FH’s family. I am black my FH is white. we are NOT jumping the broom because my family would think it inappropriate. (doesnt help that i grew up in Richmond, VA capital of teh confederacy and my FH is a “yankee” NYer !!! lol)
but i have other friends who have interracial relationships who HAVE. it really depends on the family of the B&G.
if your FH wants to go for it, i doubt since your family wouldnt know what it is anyway – that they would even know about how it came to be used as a tradition in the south.
i suggest putting a tasteful summarization on your programs of what it means to jump the broom so people dont wonder what it is…
Post # 6
Um, my parents jumped the broom and they’re both very white. I’m not sure why, I’m assuming it has something to do with the fact that we’re in New Orleans and traditions here are often very intercultural, but growing up (after they explained to me why there was a fancy broom on our living room wall) I always thought it was a pretty awesome tradition. I’m looking forward to jumping the broom with my Indian-American boyfriend when we get married. I agree that an explanation might help guests who are unfamiliar with the tradition, but if it’s something that’s important to you and/or your FI, I say go for it.