Post # 1
My FH and I are planning on jumping the broom after we are married. We are an interracial couple. (I’m black, he’s white) Some of our family has raised concerns. Not loud ones because they don’t want to be tasered (Grammy came close twice).
I was thinking about explaining some of the customs in our program because the ceremony will be all over the place. Any ideas or should I just let them fume in silence?
BTW our parents each have two "issue" tickets. They have a chance to object freely twice. I don’t think anyone wants to use a ticket on this.
Post # 3
I guess I wonder what exactly their concerns are? I love to see stuff like this at weddings – and any custom that you think has meaning for you is something you should incorporate. But I am (naively, I’m sure) confused as to what the objection would be…
Post # 4
I say, don’t worry about it. My FH and I are incorporating lots of world traditions that speak to us into the ceremony since its not going to be very religious but we still wanted to have lots of meaningful stuff. We are seriously considering jumping a broom ourselves, and we’re both caucasian. I think the meaning behind the action is what’s important, not who or what country originated it. We’re also breaking a plate (nod to my greek heritage), stepping on a glass (he’s 1/2 jewish) and more…..
Oh, and I agree that putting something in the program to explain it is a good idea. We’re going to have a "key" to the ceremony for our guests to understand the different parts and where they come from.
Post # 6
I have a friend who is in an interracial couple of the same combo (I am too as a matter of fact) and for her wedding they did both jumping the broom and he stomped the glass (a Jewish tradition). I think jumping the broom has a beautiful meaning. Definitely do it. The program explanation is a good idea.
Post # 7
We are planning on jumping the broom as well. I think it is widely regarded to be an African American tradition, is that why you think your family is concerned? Well rest easy, AAs don’t own it.
I think that any time a custom or nod to the past is honored during a ceremony it makes since to provide background information. Some people may not know at all what it symbolizes and may appreciate it more if they have an understanding.
I say include it in the program. And I doubt anyone will use their issue tickets. Personally, I am trying to remember that anyone can object and offer their opinions and we will do our best to consider them, but in the end we are holding fast to our (mine and Fi’s) convictions.
Post # 8
Oh I think that would be Super Lovely.
And yes, I think you should also put a short description of the meaning and purpose/history of it.
Post # 9
I agree! I think it’s a lovely idea and would also recommend adding something in the program. As someone who doesn’t know a lot about the tradition or the history, I’d really appreciate some background information so that I could celebrate with you.
We’re including a handfasting in the ceremony and have included a page about it in our programs explaining the meaning, history, and why we chose to include it.
Post # 10
go ahead and do it! put a little description in the program so those who may not be familiar with the tradition will know why y’all are hopping over a broom on your way down from the altar. my bf is not korean but we plan on doing a paebaek [actually, he was really excited about the idea when i told him that i wanted to do one] because i am and it’s part of my culture, which will become ours upon marriage. and i say let them fume in peace. they’re grown ups, they’ll learn to deal.
Post # 11
I am Indian/Sri Lankan and my fiance is African American. So we are including traditions from both cultures – tying of the thali/manglasutra and jumping the broom. Because our guests will be very diverse, I am including explanations of both tradtions.
For jumping the broom, I am using the following that I found on this website – http://confessionsoftheweddingdiva.blogspot.com
"It is believed that during the era of slavery in America, newlywed couples would use the ritual of broom jumping as a way to give some sort of legitimacy to their unions, since they were unable to wed under legal circumstances. The broom symbolizes the setting up of a new household as well as the sweeping away of negative thoughts, actions and spirits which can break the bonds of a happy marriage.
In the motherland, the "village" represents not only the actual inhabitants, but the sense of family and community. And as members of this couple’s "village", we need to support and encourage their union. Love them enough to give them the benefit of your wisdom – but at the same time, know when to walk away and let them tend the fires of their marriage.
There is a saying "Make a joyful noise – so that the rocks don’t cry out!". As we all celebrate this wonderful occasion, let’s all get up on our feet and shout our joy to the heavens..so the world will know that this couple have become one…with each other. As (insert bride & groom’s names here) "leap into da’ land of matrimony", we wish the very best of love, health & happiness!!"
Post # 12
i say go with it! definitely incl a little blurb in your program.
the families are probably concerned what others will think. oh well. who cares?
my FI and i are both AA and i’ve not made a decision yet on this tradition, but i think SBKM79 lil blurb above is definitely a great description of the tradition.
Post # 13
- Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country
seriously, its things like these cultural traditions that people remember long after your wedding is over…not favors, not colors, not flowers.
I say do it. Its such a small thing that honors your heritage, but it is a memory that i guarantee lots will remember forever 🙂
Post # 14
I say go for it. Traditions are what make weddings special!
Post # 15
For future reference and brides, it’s considered to be disrespectful for non Black/African American couples to partake in the ceremony due to the history behind it. This is an African tribal marriage ritual of placing sticks on the ground representing the couple’s new home together, and the spray of the broom represents all of us scattered and the handle represents the almighty who holds us together. You see, during the slave “transitions” we were not allowed to practice many of the traditional rituals of our past therefore, much of our heritage was lost during this time. So this broom ceremony represents the joining of two families, it’s showing respect and pays homage to those who came before us and paved the way. In a nutshell “Broom Jumping” is a ritual, handed down from generation to generation as a symbol for Black/African Americans of a time when our vows were not legal because we were slaves and weren’t considered to be human beings
Post # 16
To Mstiffanyb… I’ve seen a few of these posts, and thought I should reply… I’m not planning to jump the broom myself, but whilst in America it is generally an African-American tradition, it also has completely seperate roots in European and especially Celtic culture going back almost 1000 years. I think that a lot of the rights and wrongs of the issue depend on where the couple live and their ethnic background. If they are “American to the core, no European roots” whites living in the deep South of America, I can see why that would cause offence. But what about a Romany living in Ireland, for example? Why shouldn’t they follow the traditions of their ancestors? What about a pagan couple with Scottish roots who want to honour their Celtic heritage? I think it really depends on circumstances.
PS But I wouldn’t do it myself, as when I do marry then I want a religious wedding, and this is considered a pagan tradition where I live (England). For example, no church that I know of would allow this in a Christian ceremony here!