Post # 1
My date is June 14th and we are just about to change our venue last minute; we’re meeting with the new (potential) venue on Thursday. We will lose our $500 deposit from the old place, but they have been really bad with service (ignored several emails, stood us on a meeting) and it’s left a really bad taste in our mouths, plus the new place seems like an overall better deal. In any case, I guess other than that we have all the big things in place like photographer, videographer, officiant and dress, but absolutely nothing else has been organized. We argue a lot about who should and shouldn’t be allowed to make a speech and last week my FI lost his wallet, which contained all his ID that he’d need to get a marriage licence, as well as his Permanent Resident card that he needs in order to re-enter the country after our honeymoon in six weeks. My bridesmaids are frantically searching for coral, taupe, light pink and nude dresses without much success. Having them pick their own dresses was supposed to be the kinder option rather than making them wear something potentially unflattering or that they won’t wear again, but they are pretty stressed out.
To top it off, my graduation ceremony and a big awards ceremony are taking place one and three days before the wedding respectively, and all our family are arriving from abroad the week before the wedding, wanting/expecting to see us.
Maybe I am more laid back right now than I should be, but I am getting very anxious thinking about all the medium-sized and little things we will have to start sorting very, very soon. Now I am beginning to understand why people say their happiest day is their wedding day; it’s probably the first day they can actually relax!
Someone tell me this is normal!
Post # 2
June 14th wedding here, too!
I’m not crazy anxious yet but I’ve been very busy with the end of the school year (first year teacher). Once school is finished I have 13 days to pull everything together. Yikes!
Things will definitely work out and you’re right, the wedding day will probably be the first opportunity to relax!
Do you have a wedding countdown timer on your phone? Mine freaks me out every time I look at it! Just over a month left!
Post # 3
I am a June 14th bride too! I keep having freak out moments. It’s not all the time though. We already got our marriage license, we can get ours 60 days out from the wedding here. I still need table numbers and a table for our sweet heart table. Ugh. Decorations. I need flowers. Abc license. Oh boy time for another freak out. xD
Post # 4
I freak out when I allow myself to think about everything that still needs to be done. Especially since I am out of days off to take before the wedding and have 2 long weekends where I am away before the wedding on June 14. No pressure!
Post # 5
Well, you guys have certainly made me feel better! I either feel totally relaxed or totally anxious. No middle ground here!
Post # 6
For the last year and half I’ve been crafting away and happy. But right at the 7-week mark the vendors started driving me nuts.
One of the hotels (Holiday Inn) that we blocked has told several guests that our rate has either expired or doesn’t exist. I did this a year ago and have a contract that states the rate doesn’t expire until June 12th. I’ve had to try to track down people to get the mess corrected.
They started construction with no warning at my venue (a historic site)–this is beyond a mess (literally)-but at least the managers of the venue have been responsive to my concerns. The building is owned by the county and just decided to start a major renovation this summer. This causes me the most stress. Hard hats at the wedding???
Our bartender (beverage caterer) missed the deadline to file the proper paperwork for the liquor permit (ugh), after two crazy days we got that fixed.
I live in a town with most unprofessional businesses. I don’t trust any of them. They have no idea of what a contract truly means. It drives me crazy and I fear the zilla will come out.
–Oh, and I still need a cake (oops, that’s on me).
Post # 7
wabanzi: Gosh, that sounds terrible. Is everything going more smoothly now? I have been having my own nightmares, but a lot of it is my fault. Our original venue tried to insist that we needed to pay the FULL amount when we cancelled, which was nonsense because they didn’t even make us sign a contract. The owner was so rude. Anyway, I only JUSt booked hair and make up (just over a week out!), not ordered cakes, not given an itinerary to the photographer/videographer and not yet written my vows (plus a dozen other things, including a bunch of crafts). Sigh. I truly wish we’d eloped at this point.
Post # 8
I hope you guys get things worked out and get to de-stress! I have a few days left and the only thing worrying me right now is the rain we have had this week. It is not supposed to rain any more before Sat., but I hope it stays that way and the ground dries. The whole ceremony and reception are outdoors and we have no plan B.
Post # 9
Jezika: I think changing venues would be a major stressor, especially if the old venue is trying to cheat and hassle you.
I finally got our cake and other desserts–Donut Bank 🙂 I had been to so many cake tastings over the last year and none of them thrilled me. I thought for the price they would taste better than grocery store cakes, but they didn’t. I had a Donut Bank cake at my shower and it was awesome. Very inexpensive too. So that is done.
You many need to prioritize your craft list and let some of it go.
For me, the venue is still under construction and it is up and down with that. Not much I can do about, so I try to just look past it and keep on my to do list.
In the end of the day, we just need to get married (top priority) and hope that our guests have a good time.
Post # 10
So sorry to hear about your stressors! My wedding is the 21st and just yesterday I experienced my first bridal break down because my florist hadn’t contacted me in over a month after I emailed her twice, called her cell phone and left a message, and then called the store. Luckily she called me last night after my fiance ended up calling for me again. Our payment is due tomorrow and the revisions were due on Monday, and I had a lot of revisions, so I was freaking out!
I have a bridesmaid that dropped and now that the wedding is closer, I keep freaking out that things are going to go all wrong and nothign will look right