Post # 1
So we plan to have my fiance’s niece be a junior bridesmaid. He is very close to her and we really want to include her in in the wedding. She has been asking her mom if she is going to be the flower girl in our wedding. His brother (her other uncle) got engaged prior to us (by a few years) and asked her to be his flower girl but has yet to get married or even begin planning the wedding and her mom told my FI that his niece feels like she was lied to about being a flower girl.
So – here’s my dilemma. I know she really wants to be a flower girl, but her younger sister will be 2 1/2 at the time of the wedding and we had decided she will be the flower girl so her older sister can be a junior bridesmaid. Since she is on the younger side for a junior bridesmaid I’m sure she won’t understand what that means and I’m afraid she will feel disappointed that she’s not the flower girl. Any suggestions on how I ask her so she realizes this is a bigger responsibility than a flower girl? And what can I tell her some of her duties are? Also – I plan to give her a little gift or something when I ask – any suggestions on what to get her – I would love for it to be something that has to do with her junior bridesmaid role.
I think I forgot to say – she is 9 now and will be 11 when we get married.
Post # 3
@flutterbi: Her main duty can be escorting her 2 1/2 year old sister down the aisle. Kids are pretty finicky when it comes to being in the spotlight. My niece and nephew (ages 4 and 5) were the flowergirl and ring bearer for my sister’s wedding and even though they are naturally outgoing and were supposed to walk down the aisle together…they completely froze up when it was time….and my older sister ended up walking them down the aisle =)
She could also do a special reading at the wedding.
As for gifts…maybe jewelry or a little goody bag would be nice.
Post # 4
I know I was always a little bitter at not being the flower girl when my same-age cousing was. But when we were both junior bridesmaids, I felt like it was a greater position, I felt older and more respected. I think the neice will understand that just by being asked. I was 11 when I was a junior bridesmaid. She will feel like you both think so highly of her that she gets to be a bridesmaid. Good Luck
Post # 5
My younger cousin was 9 when I asked her if she wanted to be my flower girl(10 at the time of the wedding), and she said “no way, I wanna be a bridesmaid!” LOL so you never know, maybe she would be exicited to be one of the ‘big girls’. I asked her to help me with a few easy projects, like wrap ribbons on flowers or glue stuff on the favors. She was totally fine.