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Maybe give her a corsage instead of a bouquet? And wear her hair down instead of up? Just thinking of 'youth indicators'...
If she has the body of a grown woman, nothing she wears will keep people from thinking she is one. I wouldn't worry too much about it- just make sure to spread word around the party that she's 13 before anyone gets too drunk!
Make sure she's not too 'made up' on the day of as well - if your other BMs are going to have dark smoky eyes, make sure she still has sweet, young, light colors, haha.
Since she's more busty than your other 'maids, can you get her a higher cut (neckline) version of the same dress? So she's not all cleavage-y asking to be hit on?
Or get her a big pin that said "MINOR" to wear after the drinking starts ;) (just kidding, of course!)
As a girl who was 5'9" and a bra size C at age 12, there isn't a lot you can do to hide the girl or make her look younger! I used to get hit on by my mom's 17 year old students a lot and my mom would always smack him on the arm and go, "hey she's 12!" and they'd go "oh i'm so sorry! so sorry!" Chances are her behavior and social skills will automaticlaly set her apart from anyone who wants to ask her out--she is not going to be comfortable around a bunch of young adults in general. I was totally intimidated at that age! I agree with the PP, just keep her makeup very simple. Give her a pinky lip gloss maybe? I was all about the lip gloss when i was younger, which turned into lipsticks when i got older. Maybe have her wear flat shoes--i think stilettos are uncalled for =]
IMO, even if she's not busting out of her dress, somebody may be creepy and hit on her. It would happen otherwise. Chances are her mom's at the wedding though, right? But seriously, covering her up is only going to make HER feel embarassed (like why am i wearing so many clothes versus everyone else? She wants to "fit in" with your other bms) and it's not like you're going to pick a skanky bm dress anyways!
Yeah, if she doesn't look 13, her dress won't make her look 13 either. I'd let her match the other bridesmaids, mark her clearly in the program, keep her hair and makeup extremely natural and demure, and then... make sure she's seated with other 13-yos or her parents during the reception. ;)
Just to clarify how guys work... if there is a girl that looks like she's in her 20s but is actually 13, word will spread extremely fast to both check her out and also to avoid hitting on her.
Just tell one guy that she's 13, and everyone there will know within half an hour.
LOL - MrBee I love when you put in the guys input!!!!
lol @MrBee - Well put and totally true, I've seen that scenario at work.
As the mom of a tall, curvy, lovely nearly 13 year old girl I can say that I can completely understand your worry. However, everyone here is definately steering you in the right direction - keep her make-up sweet, give her a lower heel or a flat, go with a simple hairstyle and keep her jewelry young.
@ daydream wanderer, the pin comment made me LOL!
Word will get around, as Mr. Bee said...still, I'd have her mom keep an eye on her.
@daydreamwanderer, YES you're a PP, LOL....i had to think about that one for a second...=]
"to both check her out and avoid hitting on her" LOL....Kinda like how married women work, right? 
Coming from someone who was 6'0" at 13, there is nothing you can do to mask the fact that she looks like an adult. :p
You could give her some more age-appropriate dressing choices though, like flats (as you mentioned). You don't want to have her dressing like a 20-year-old, even if she looks like one. :)
Lmao...a Minor pin. that's hilarious.
I have nothing to add, but I agree with the PP's.
Thanks everyone! I agree, nothing I do is going to make her look anything like 13.
Her whole family (mum, dad and younger brother) will be there, and her mum will certainly keep an eye on her. Luckily she's reasonably mature, and wouldn't do anything stupid (probably), but she'd definitely be flattered if the guys chat her up! But her blush and grin would probably give her away lol.
@Mr Bee - rotfl!! That's actually a pretty good idea, I'll definitely be doing that. Actually the boys are totally out of luck with my bridesmaids - two are taken, one's a non-dating (let alone anything else) Christian, and one's 13...
Ah well, I guess I'll just do what I can. And she'll have to suck it up and wear flats (she'd be miserable in heels anyway. Actually, that might be a good lesson for her... I bet after standing in heels for the ceremony she'd be over them!), and whatever else I decide on.
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...And she's only 13. Has the biggest bra size of all of us, and is taller than one of my best friends and as tall as the other two (who are 22, 23 and 25). She looks just as old as them (if not older, haha. She's very womanly and beautifully proportioned).
She also doesn't want to look different to my bridesmaids. I wanted her to wear flats, and maybe a knee-length skirt (if the BMs have full length), or a different colour, but she's mock horrified.
It's not a big issue.. I don't think either of us are very stressed over it, it's more of a source of humour.
But, I do need to make a decision! I don't want any of fi's friends accidentally hitting on her, but I don't want to make her be the odd one out if she doesn't want to. What are subtle ways of dressing her etc that say "I'm 13!"?