Post # 1
Just trying to get my mind of my apartment issues right now and wanted to just rant a little bit about a facebook friend.
So we used to be best friends in high school while I was dating FI, but when she started dating her BF she suddenly cut me out of her life. I still have her on facebook though and occasionally creep her up.
So a few months ago they got back together after being broken up for several months because she caught him cheating on him, but she took him back in. Very soon after they were suddenly engaged to be married and set the date for 3 years off.
I just seen on facebook yesterday that there is wedding stuff everywhere! She posted 2 days ago her own personal guidelines for people about marriage – kind of ticked me off because I wanted to say “What right do you have to give people marriage advice, your boyfriend cheated on you and now your marrying him!” But I have restraint.
Then she posted that she was so stressed trying to find a venue in this town and that her date is August 2015 now. I was just confused because it took me a day to have a full list of potential venue options in town and had one booked within a week – this is all 6 months before my wedding date that I did this mind you… it makes me feel like she is just trying to get wedding attention, it couldn’t be easier finding venues so far out here!
Then she posted that they were doing invitations… I really wanted to say something then! She doesn’t even have a venue figured out and just picked the date and she is doing invitations for a wedding in August 2015!!! My invitations haven’t even been done yet!!!!
Then the best part. I creeped her FI and he had just posted that his best man was unavailable for his wedding date because the guys sister is getting married the exact same day so he needs VOLUNTEERS who are reliable and can afford a tux to be a best man. This one even made my FI laugh because I can’t understand why anyone needs to look for volunteers over facebook for a best man. To me it made a mockery to anyone who is a best man! Just a note: no one volunteered yet for him.
I wasn’t the only one confused because her relatives are commenting on it all – particularly on how they moved the wedding up by 2 years.
So I just got that out of my system, I was dying to tell someone else but my FI was the only person I can really share it with other than on here.
Post # 3
@ElayneRunner: Hope you feel better. If her posts bother you so much why do you keep going back to read them?
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
::facepalm:: The best man part is the most pathetic thing ever.
Post # 5
@julies1949: They don’t really bother me, I have her blocked out of my newsfeed but it is more of an entertainment to read her posts. The only frustration I have is her making it sound like wedding planning is impossible in this town when she is doing it so far ahead!
Post # 6
@ElayneRunner: I cannot beleive that! Who has to practically beg people to volunteer to be his best man? And then to have that they need to be reliable and purchase their own tux?? It sounds like something they should post to the local job board!
To me it screams that they shouldn’t be getting married as they don’t seem to “get it”… a best man position has an honour to it, you don’t publicly beg for ANYONE to show up… and she seems a bit off kilter with when things need to be done! My wedding is 8 months off and I have just ordered my invitations so she shouldn’t even be looking at invitations for almost another year!
I would be naughty… I would’ve commented on her invitation status something along the lines of how she is like a year ahead of where she needs to be plus that you found the entire process easy and painless so to message you for advice if she is getting that frustrated on a simple task!
PS. I would be a little mad too if someone posted guidelines for marriage as if they had experience… when they are barely engaged and appear to be rushing their wedding with their boyfriend who cheated on them!
Post # 7
Just updating for the heck of it as I can’t tell anyone right now…
So she now just posted that they were changing the wedding date and how stressed she was, then her FI commented that the wedding date wasn’t being changed, then she replied with how she can’t wait.
This is going to be the point where I stop looking at it because that post actually bothered me slightly in the sense that she appears to be seeking out attention with constant wedding updates for a wedding that is over a year and a half away. It is funny that she appears to be getting less and less attention from our friends…
It is actually pretty funny that she needs to share all of this stuff when I haven’t shared a single wedding detail via facebook other than our enagement status.
Post # 8
@ElayneRunner: This story is why I don’t have FB. Its the idealized, edited version of life.
Post # 10
Reasons like this is why I deactivated mine almost two years ago, as well.
@op, I always find it funny and strange when couples actually talk to one another through Facebook. To me, her and her fiancé are coming across as the type that are getting married for “the party” aspect. He’s taking volunteers for best man?!?! I’m not sure if I should laugh or feel bad for the guy that he doesn’t have another very close person to him that he can ask.
Post # 11
I wonder if they’d take a rando. I’ve always wondered what it would be like to be a best man, and hey–free food and booze!
Post # 12
I love this! If only i could add them as friends so I can follow what appears to be a train wreck waiting to happen!
Post # 13
Seriously I don’t get these type of threads. Why bother post about it when it is so easy to either unfriend or block/hide the person’ news feed.
@ElayneRunner: Honestly if it bothers you that much than unfriend her. It is not the end of the world and really who cares what all her drama is about. Does it really affect your day to day life?
Post # 14
I do have FB but dont use it as much as some people. No one really wants to know I’m buying bread and peanut butter or that I had lunch at chickfila.
When married couples have conversations on there, it confuses me. Don’t they live in the same house? Why the need to FB each other as well?