Post # 1
Hi fellow believers! So first of all could you please pray for my fiance and I as we both go about in our walk with God? Please pray that we will grow closer to Him and be the people that he intended for us to be? I would really appreciate it. The other thing is our wedding night…..I unfortunately made the stupid mistake of losing my virginity when I was 13 and I just fell into this pattern of having sex with guys (not more than 3 thank goodness) and that led me to having sex with my fiance even though I knew it was wrong and we both have felt strongly convicted of it and are really trying to abstain until our wedding night. Yet I still feel like our wedding night is ruined for two reasons: 1. He lost his virginity to me and I feel like I had/have nothing to give him on our wedding night. 2. We’ve already done everything and I just feel like it won’t be special. I know that God forgives us but I still have these doubts. I just needed to do a little venting I guess.
Post # 3
@Future_Mrs_Naugle: Whoa…I really think that you are being a little hard on yourself. God loves YOU. You and your man will be able to share some really special times together. You are giving him your commitment for LIFE. The Vow you are making before people and God is going to be blessed.
Be kinder to yourself. You are loved.
Post # 4
@divadowell: Thank you, I really needed to hear that. 🙂 I guess I am being too hard on myself.
Post # 5
A key component of Christianity is that we’re NOT perfect. We aren’t supposed to be. What really matters is that you and your FI are happy and are sharing in your faith together. Your wedding night could never NOT be special — no matter what has happened in your relationship prior, everything is still new and special as husband and wife.
And you said it: God forgives you. Which means you can most certainly forgive yourself!
Post # 6
@Gemstone: Thank you. I keep focusing on the fact that I know everything will be so new and exciting as husband and wife. Having sex as a married couple sounds exciting and special in and of itself. I know God has forgiven me and us but I guess I just haven’t forgiven myself.
Post # 7
God will definitely forgive you 🙂 as for your wedding night, it will be the first time having sex as husband and wife 🙂 I’m sure it will be very special:) don’t worry 🙂
Post # 8
@Missymalumba: Thank you. 🙂 That’s what I keep trying to tell myself.