- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
Ugh – I feel like a big baby for even writing this, but I need to get if off my chest.
We’re two weeks and one day out from the wedding. Throughout the whole planning process, I’ve done my level best to stay as calm as possible, to be accomodating without being a doormat, and to worry about/deal with the things that are in my control and then just let go of the rest. That said, I’m just getting really tired of the whole thing. Some of the stuff that’s been happening:
– FI has a somewhat estranged family member who he was on the fence about inviting. I told him it was completely up to him, that we had room for this person, but if he didn’t want to invite her (becuase of past history), that was fine too. He decided that he did want to invite her, so we sent the invitiation a month ago. Fine. Once the invitation was received, we received a phone call from her asking if she could bring her friend. I hadn’t thought to invite her with a “plus one” as she’s been widowed for many years and, to my knowledge, wasn’t seeing anyone. However, we said sure, bring the friend. Then I found out this family member called my FMIL to express her “disapproval” of the fact that FH and I live together. My thought is that if this person wanted to have some say in how FH and I live our lives, maybe she should have been around more and you know, actually gotten to know us. Fortunately, FMIL is 100% on our side and told this guest so, which was awesome of her. So, not a huge deal, but irritating.
-We have several family members with mobility issues (of varying types). So, we wanted to get married outside, but we realized that in a lot of outdoor venues would not be friendly to walkers, wheelchairs, etc. Also, in a lot of them, there was a huge distance to travel between the parking area and where we would need to hold the wedding. We looked and looked, and finally found a small park about an hour away from where we live that is perfect. Wheelchair accessable, with the parking lot as close to the ceremony area as you can get without getting married in a drive-in movie theater. Bonus is that our reception location is right across the street. However, all I’ve heard from FH’s family is how “far away” it is and how inconvenient, etc. Which I feel badly about, but it was literally the only thing we saw that would work (and that made us happy too).
-Another family member has some pretty significant health issues and is therefore on a “soft food” diet. Apparently the solution to this is all up to me, somehow. Her spouse wrote on the response card that her food needs to be “ground up” and the reception venue is not really sure how to accomodate that (which I totally understand). Fortunately, the reception venue will allow us to bring in food for her which is awesome, but I’m just frustrated that I have to be the one to figure it out – her husband isn’t, the rest of her family isn’t, etc. At this point, I’ll be cooking food for her the day before the wedding, packaging it up, and asking the venue to serve it to her. I have time to do this, and fortunately I really like her, so again – not a huge deal, but irritating anyway.
-Another family member still isn’t sure if she can come with her spouse becuase he’s been ill. Anyway, she wants to come herself, and she wants to bring a friend if her husband can’t come. Again, fine, at this point I just don’t care and I want the guests to be comfortable. But, I have not received an RSVP yet – so I don’t know who’s coming (if at all), what they want to eat, etc. I’ll be following up on this during this weekend, but I’m just irritated.
-when I called the banquet manager this week for the reception, she couldn’t find my paperwork and my $400 deposit. I was hopping mad and ready to do battle when she finally found it, but still – way to give me a heart attack, you know?
-add in a bunch of little stuff like my mom freaking out over where she’s going to take a shower the morning of the wedding (um, in your shower? At home? The one you use every day?), and that the weather gods apparently didn’t hear my request for a lovely fall day and are instead giving me a hot summer day instead, and I’m soooo ready for a stiff drink. And then a massage. And then another drink.
Anyway, thanks for listening to me vent. I know in the grand scheme of things, this stuff really, really won’t matter and I’ll be married to my man and it will be magic blah blah blah. But still, irritated right now