Post # 1
“He built a box, and she painted their last initial and their wedding date on it. They put in two unread love letters to each other about why they fell in love, a nice bottle of wine from the year they started dating, and nailed the lid on the box. They promised that if things ever get too hard and their love starts to fade, they will open the box, drink the wine, and read the letters they wrote to each other, reminding them of how much their love means and to never give up.”
Maybe i’m feeling really sappy today but I thought this was a really sweet idea and put a smile on my face!
Post # 3
@missebelle: So…being totally honest, I went to a wedding once where the couple did this ‘nail the box’ ceremony and I thought it was strange. At first, I thought the officiant was saying they would open the box on, like, their 10th or 25th wedding anniversary and my initial response was “awww.” But instead, he said, “if ever your marriage is in peril, if ever you both want to leave the marriage, open this box.” And I just thought “Wow, things have taken a dark turn, here!” If I had a box like that in my house, I’d take it as this almost ominous symbol, lol.
Post # 4
We are doing a version of this but not if your marriage is ever in trouble. Our officiant will say somethng like this
” Like good wine, a great love will deepen and mature with age. As a part of today’s ceremony, _____ and _____ have captured their thoughts leading up to this day in personal notes to each other. Also they have asked their parents (or best man / maid of honor or other loved ones) to compose notes as well, containing their thoughts and their most important piece of advice to the couple as they journey through life together. These notes will now be sealed in this box to be opened and shared together with a bottle of wine on a future anniversary celebration.
It is at this time I would ask the parents to come forward and place their note and a bottle of wine inside this box. These messages and wine will be shared by _______ and ________ on their 1st and 5th anniversaries.
And I now ask that ______ and _______ place their notes to each other with a bottle of wine they have selected to share on their 10th anniversary celebration. On that joyous day ______, ___ 20XX they will get to reflect on the events and emotions they shared on this wonderful day. They can also reminisce about all of the wonderful memories they will have made over the last ten years and dream of all of those yet to come.
Post # 5
We’re doing this too, but not with the love in peril thingie. To open on our 5 year anniversary!
Post # 6
My hubs and I just did this in our ceremony! The officiant definitely didn’t say anything about our love being in peril though lol. Here’s a sample of the the box we used….
I like this one becuase it has clasps, instead of being nailed, so it can be reused throughout the years. We’re going to open it on our one year anniversary and then continue the tradition each year! 🙂 Totally love this idea, and didn’t know about it until our officiant mentioned it to us!
Post # 7
Were doing this too! We will open every year on our anniversary. Havent bought box yet tho, but i love them all! I def want to leave out the in times of bad thing tho, we will keep that to ourselves!
Post # 8
I loved this idea when I heard about it! I agree, though, about making it an anniversary thing rather than a “when your marriage is in trouble” thing. We might agree to that privately, but I wouldn’t want it annouced as part of the ceremony, especially after reading this comment from BlondeBee on another thread about it:
So I was a guest at a wedding where this was done, and honestly, it was SUPER awkward. My entire row was looking around going… “wait,… what?” Now, This may have been because the officiant said “So on your first anniversary, you’ll take the wine out, drink it, and read the letters. Or, if you two are about to do something stupid, you break the box open early.” I think the way it’s explained is key. This guy was awwwwkward.
Here are some other threads about it:
Post # 9
I’ve been hearing about this so much, it’s starting to feel like a trend rather than a touching personal gesture. And I really do find it off-putting when the plan is to open the box during a terrible fight or other martial struggle. Seems like after framing it that way, if you ever do open the box, your basically saying “Honey, our marriage is in worse shape than ever.” Not necessarily a good way to start the resolution process. I like the idea of an anniversary box much more.
Post # 10
@missebelle: we did this but to open on our 10 year anniversary (i guess we could decide to open it if things got bad, but we didn’t talk about it at our wedding) a lot of people commented and said how much they liked it/how different they thought it was – i think it can be a great a personal touch. we didn’t want to do a sand ceremony and a unity candle wasn’t really us, so this is what we picked.
Post # 11
@Britt214: LOVE LOVE LOVE this! And the monologue that goes with it! I am so over the sand ceremony (like what the eff am I going to do with a jar of sand). And this actually fits into a ceremony instead of hey if you ever want to kill each other and get a divorce get sloshed on this wine and read a letter!
Post # 12
@Britt214: thank you for posting – love it!
and the fact these guys deliver to australia – double love it! thank you!!
Post # 13
@nikbee: I thought it was a cute take on the unity sand/candle thing. Still including both families but in a different way! And yeah, I loved the wine thing but did not love the drink this if your marriage is in trouble thing. Happened upon that company and instantly knew it was what I wanted to do! They are reasonable too wineforawedding.com if you want to check them out. Our wedding is in 18 days, I will let you know how this goes! 🙂
@Nic01: No problem! I found this company and fell in love with this take on the wine ceremony. Glad they deliver your way too!
Post # 14
@Britt214: Yes please let me know how this goes! I absolutely love it and thanks for the link!
Post # 15
This is really sweet. Love the anniversary idea.
Post # 16
My fiancé just said, “That is beautiful. We are doing that.”