(Closed) Just a little excitement, a little less attitude?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
Member
36 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I feel for you. I think that wedding planning can be extremely stressful and sometimes isolating (which is why this website is so helpful!). I know in my case, sometimes people tire of being asked a ton of requests and probably in a row. Even though it’s the brides big day, people don’t prioritize it as the bride does. A request for transport may be crucial for you, but not so for others.

I would suggest, telling the girls you’d really like them there the day of for breakfast etc and if you really want transport (tell them where and when to be because you booked a limo). I doubt people would say no to that. As members of the bridal party, they may not need to be attentive for all the months while planning, but the day of really is for you and you deserve their support. I gave my bridesmaids a schedule to follow with times etc.. for the day. I say don’t give them the option, tell them when and where you need them that day. After all they committed to being your bridesmaid and if the requests are resonable, then they shouldn’t be so rude/insensitive.

Good luck 🙂

Post # 5
Member
36 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@AnonymousCupcake these are standard bridesmaid requests and they shouldn’t be giving them a second thought and helping. Maybe they are first time bridesmaids or don’t know etiquette, but certainly let them know where and when you need them and let them know that you appreciate their help. I’m sure they love and care about you and your wedding, but might not know how to help. Also, the earlier you get them these schedules or let them know what you need, the better IMO 🙂

 

Post # 6
Member
3697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’ll admit that a couple times I used the mommy card.  That is, I called my mom bitching about my SIL/MOH who called my brother (her wife) who told her to get her shiz together. 

People just don’t realize the importance of things or that things have deadlines.  Sometimes a simple “Hey, I just really need to know this right now or you’re on your own.”  Or “I’d really like for us to have breakfast together, it would mean a lot to me, I’ll have food, can you please be here at 8am?  I need to know so I can have space and food and I have to get back to them tomorrow.”

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