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    megcomb    May 26, 2012  

    First I would like to say how much I love this website! Just discovered it a few days ago.

    Now I would like to rant. Ok so my fiances family is VERY religious, like bible thumping shove a cross down your throat religious. So we got pregnant when I was 17 and he was 19 by idiocy of not using a condom. We now have an AMAZING 3 year old son, still love eachother so much and are finally planning our wedding after a 3 year engagement.

    His parents have been pushing and pushing for us to get married since they found out I was pregnant because apparently the "right thing to do" is to get married right away to cover up the fact that you had sex before marriage. i am in complete disagreeance. The ONLY reason to EVER get married is because you love eachother and want to spend the rest of your lives together.

    So we love eachother and have plans for the future and we are finally planning our wedding. The reason we didnt get married right away, well its several reasons. 1. I was 17! 2. I don't agree with his parents and kind of secretly wanted to piss them off. 3. I knew I wanted to marry my fiance and spend our lives together, but we weren't ready to actually be married. 4. MONEY, we can now (barely) afford to have a real wedding, not in vegas and not in a  backyard, and MOST definitely not in a church.

    So now to the point of why I feel the need to rant. His parents are telling everyone that were "doing the right thing" OMG I hate when they say that. It makes my skin crawl. i just want to scream in their faces "We aren't getting marride because we had a kid, we are getting married because we love eachother!! This isn't "the right thing to do" this is what WE WANT TO DO!"

    Anyone understand this feeling.

    Oh and I'm not athiest or anything, I believe in GOd and Jesus as the messiah, I just don't belive that you go around shoving beliefs down peoples throats and telling people what "the right thing to do" is.

     
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    AmeliaBedelia    March 3, 2012   Georgia

    Lol. I think some people are just like that. I agree with all of your points - I think you did the exact right thing for you guys and THAT, my dear, is all that matters. :) I can't exactly relate, but I do know a few people that are glad we will no longer "be living in sin." <-- We've been living together for almost 3 years. Lol.

     
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    AmeliaBedelia    March 3, 2012   Georgia

    AND by the way - Welcome! Enjoy!

     
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    Juliepants    June 2, 2012   Ontario

    @megcomb: Your post made me smile.  I agree with all the stuff you wrote.  It sucks that they are acting and speaking like that, but it doesn't sound like anything's going to change their minds anytime soon.  I know my mom can't wait until I'm married so we can stop "living in sin" as well.  *rolls eyes*

     
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    megcomb    May 26, 2012  

    Thanks to both of you. You made me laugh a bit. I have never heard anyone say that I am "living in sin" but I think if  I did I would just laugh in their face. I think I can develop a sense of humor around this and just let them be, well it still pisses me off but maybe i can laugh about it too!!

     
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    AmeliaBedelia    March 3, 2012   Georgia

    @megcomb: You're on the right track! haha. Just remember, it's THEIR hangup, not yours. Yep, "living in sin." All us "youngsters" jumping into things. Terrible I tell ya. ;)

     
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    zomgwut    July 28, 2013  

    Just ignore it.  My fiance's family is going to be horrified because we *are* both athiest/agnostic and they are not.  There is not a chance that we will agree to be married by a religious official because that would be disrespectful of others' beliefs.  Instead, we are paying a mutual friend a bottle of Jack to be our officiant.  So I'm getting ready to ignore the uproar--it's sort of satisfying to be the bigger person sometimes.

     

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