Post # 1
My husband and I have been actively not trying to prevent pregnancy for about three years now. We haven’t been consistently trying to get pregnant either. This month, DH was sick so we didn’t try.
I’m just sort of sad because it seems to be so easy for some. I am starting to realize now that I’m not getting any younger and should probably look into seeing a fertility specialist. I have been putting it off since we got married because infertility is a possibility, and seeing a doctor will make it all real.
I feel like I’m alone in my real life, but I know other Bees have been through a similar situation. I guess I’m just looking for encouragement. 🙂
Post # 2
Before you meet with a fertility specialist, I recommend you give charting a try. Knowing your cycles, specifically exactly when you ovulate, is key to figuring out if you are really having an issue or if you’re just missing the window. If you do find you’re having issues, having the charts to show the doctor will be helpful.
I avoided it for a long time because I was afraid it would be stressful, but it wasn’t at all. You just take your temperature first thing in the morning when you wake up, at the same time every day, and plug it in to a calendar. I (and many other bees!) use Fertility Friend to do this which also has a ton of helpful info and tutorials on charting. Also reading the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility was a huge help.
I’m sorry your sad and I hope it doesn’t take much longer for you. There are lots of us on the Bee that have struggled. Check out the 1 year + TTC thread, lots of great ladies on there. If you do start charting, join the Charters of the Hive! Good luck to you and I hope for the best outcome very soon!!!
Post # 3
jny1179: Thank you so much for your kind and thoughtful reply. It actually brought tears to my eyes.
I have been tracking my (very) irregular periods for a year now and have also done a few months of OPK’s.
I have attempted to keep up with the TTC thread, but I find them very overwhelming. There are so many posts, so many acronyms, so many apps/charts/things to pee on, that I feel I can’t keep up. We need a “Trying to Conceive for Dummies” thread!
Post # 4
TheMrsTulip: I second what jny1179: suggested re: charting. It took my best friend over 3 years to get pregnant with her 1st, and one cycle to get pregnant with her 2nd. The difference? She realized after wasting years stressing about not getting pregnant that she ovulates way earlier in her cycle than the “normal” guideline given by physicians. As soon as she charted, she figured out that she was missing her fertile window consistently for 3 years. <br /><br />
Post # 5
TheMrsTulip: I highly agree with everything jny1179: said. Especially reading Taking Charge of Your Fertility…you will learn so much about your own body and cycles. I started charting in March and find it fascinating what our bodies do each cycle. I hope you give charting a shot! 🙂
Post # 6
Aw, hugs!!! We haven’t started TTC, so I’m of no help in that area, but I wanted to just say to hang in there and you definitely aren’t alone! Finding out that there’s a problem can be scary, but it can also be empowering. If you can figure out why you aren’t getting pregnant, that’s the first step to solving it! And the bee is a great place to get support!
Post # 7
DH and I just started TTC, but we already know some of the issues that we’re facing and I’m really glad! Knowing that there is a reason for why things are harder for us (not just TTC but other areas as well), makes it more manageable because at least there’s a reason and you can work towards answers. Good luck! I hope you can find a doctor that you like and who can help you out.
Post # 8
TheMrsTulip: I feel your pain! There are babies and pregnant friends all around me. I stopped using my nuvaring in Jan but the problem is that I have PCOS so we knew it wouldn’t necessarily be easy, and DH is away for work 2 months out of every 3!! Doesn’t give us much room for manoeuvre! Hang it there, hopefully we won’t have to wait too long.