Post # 1
Disclaimer: This is just a selfish little vent, because I have no outlet for my TTC frustrations other than the Bee, since almost everybody around me is pregnant or just had a baby.
TTC since September. Granted, we didn’t always have the best timing due to DH’s complicated work schedule, but there was many a cycle when the odds were good and nothing happened. Just found out that a friend of DH’s is 4 months pregnant. Knocked up while on the pill and drinking gallons of coffee every day. That’s the fourth friend who announced their unexpected pregnancy since I’ve been charting, timing BD, losing sanity in the TWW, cutting down on caffeine…
Before anybody points out that unwanted pregnancy is a tough situation to be in; all four girls are in steady relationships, have good jobs, and, as far as I know, are excited about their little surprise (if I may quote one of them: “Life is perfect!!!”).
Ok, vent over. Moving on now…
Post # 3
@AprilJo2011: Ughh, I think that all of us who have had to work at getting pregnant have felt the same way! I told my sister (who is also TTC) yesterday that it seems like EVERYONE I know AND every celebrity in the news is just “popping up pregnant”!
Vent away April Jo:) We’re here to listen and commiserate with you!
Post # 4
You are not alone…I do a monthly “pity party” for myself and it really helps.
In case you don’t know my story….I tried with my XH for 8+ years, now I’m remarried and have been TTC since November. “Unexplained infertility” is what I supposedly have.
I have a great story….at our “couples shower” one of the wives and I were talking about how soon after the wedding Darling Husband and I would start trying….she knows my story. Well, she takes her 18 month home and Darling Husband and I, her husband and another guy go out drinking. She calls him an hour later. He gets really pale and is acting weird….after 20 minutes, he finally tells us she called him to say she was pregnant. Apparently, talking to me made her think “hmmm, I don’t think I got my period this month” so she bought a test on the way home. HE WAS DEVASTATED! She breastfeeds so they didn’t “think” they could get pregnant….sheesh! Nice to know I have the power to make women who aren’t trying think “wow, I feel bad for her but MAYBE I’M PREGNANT?” Too, too funny and SAD!
By The Way, keep venting….it’s nice to not be the only one out there!
Post # 5
Thanks both of you!
@MRSLMA: I didn’t even see your reply until just now. Thanks for reading! 🙂
@texasbee: Ugh, that’s annoying! Talking with you about your TTC issues made her realize she might be pregnant? And her husbands reaction to it, just wow!
I just had my annual with my OBGyn. I mentioned that we don’t have news on the baby front, but also that we didn’t always have the best timing, but they still want me to see an RE now. Not sure if I should be excited or upset about it, lol! I know hubby won’t be thrilled. In his mind, we haven’t been trying “hard enough”. Yeah well, he’s not the one charting and POAS and keeping track of good timing.
Post # 6
ugh! I just wanted to pop in and say that that would piss me off, too! I hate when we do something right and try hard and others have that exact thing plop in their laps. You will appreciate it so much more when it does happen! 🙂
Post # 7
@PeaceLoveLaughter: Thanks! That’s exactly it, trying so hard with no success while it “just happens” for others. On the bright side, since everybody else is preggo, the “when are you having babies?” questions stopped. So it’s not all bad, I guess.
Post # 8
I just wanted to lend some support. The TTC process can be so difficult. Especially if it’s not happening for you right away. We started TTC in June 2010. FINALLY, in April 2011, I found out I was pregnant, only to go to the first appointment and find out that there was no heartbeat. D&C in June 2011, and pregnant again after we took that summer off in November 2011. 2 days later, AF arrives…chemical pregnancy.
I honestly didn’t know what to do with myself at that point. We had been trying for a year and a half and had nothing to show for it. And EVERYONE was pregnant. It was so hard dealing with everyone else’s fabulous news. We finally gave it one last ditch effort at the end of 2011/beginning of 2012. I’m currently 16 weeks, and pray every day that this works out.
My SIL and I were talking about this just the other day. When I had my chemical, she had a miscarriage with their 3rd. It’s so hard to see others who have had no issues go about their daily lives as if nothing bad could ever happen during a pregnancy. And once you’ve lived through TTC unsuccessfully or had a MC yourself, it’s really hard to understand what others are going through. So just try to keep your chin up and keep going. And if you ever need to vent, come on here or PM me! I’d be glad to share my experiences!!
Post # 9
@AprilJo2011: My 19 year old cousin and his 17 year old girlfriend of 2 MONTHS found out they’re pregnant and announced it yesterday. Honest? HONEST?! At least I know that you ladies all understand:) Rant over… for now:)
Post # 10
Ugh, it sucks so bad sometimes. I know how you feel and I’m sorry 🙁 I often feel the same way! Been TTC over a year, of course five people I know have given birth in the same time frame, unexpected, planned, etc. it’s maddening!