(Closed) Just a rant about my church screwing me over…

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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16 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Im so sorry you are dealing with this.  And its very unfair.  The church should honor there arrangements.  It bad business to do otherwise.  If it makes you feel any better, I have had a few of those irrational thoughts myself.  Calm down and tell them no.  If you have a contract with them they will have to honor it, not your problem its theirs.  And if the screw up is internal then maybe pushing your timeline wont be bad if they let you have your ceremony for free.

Post # 4
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2009 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Regardless or member status, you already booked.  They shouldn’t be making changes after its booked.

Post # 6
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3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Wow honestly I would just change my venue. I have to question their motivations. You were there first so obivously you should get the priority. I also know from being in multiple weddings churchs are pretty strict about the timing of when people come in and out. I also know in some churchs they have members wedding for free, and charge nonmembers, I would really hope that wasn’t their reasoning. Being that you been for twenty years I know this is probably very hurtful and personal.

Is there anyone else you can talk to, and go over whomever’s head you are dealing with?

Post # 7
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5984 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

I don’t have any advice, just wanted to let you know that your rant is totally acceptable.  I would be extremely upset too!  Good luck working through this!

Post # 10
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5984 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

@Southerngirl4234:  You’re very welcome!  I’ll send up a prayer that everything works out in your favor. 

Post # 11
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11273 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Southerngirl4234:  i would totally put my foot down.  you reserved the church for 5pm. period.  if the other bride needs more time then she needs to reserve it earlier than 3pm.  doesn’t the church understand that??  the church needs to let the other bride know to pick an earlier time, shorter service or a time after your ceremony.  why doesn’t that bride take the 7pm slot?? 

i can’t believe your church would conduct business like this.

Post # 13
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11273 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Southerngirl4234:  don’t make any rash decisions.  take a few days to think it over before making you decide what’s best and what the church is prepared to do for you.

Post # 14
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11352 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

About 2 months ago I reserved the church, deposit and all, for June 22 at 5 pm. I let my reception venue know that we will need the venue from 6-10. I get a call a few weeks ago that a non member is reserving the church the day of but it will not effect my time because they will do it in the morning so I wasn’t worried. I get a call today saying that the other bride would like the church at 3 …”

I am about as polite and as compliant with authority as anyone you will ever meet, and I have to say that, based on the facts as you’ve presented them*, what your church is attempting to do is completely and totally unacceptable. And, if the people who work at your church want to have any integrity, they need to reverse their decision.

First, you reserved the church for a particular date and time.

Second, the church accepted your deposit to secure the date and time.

Third, someone FROM THE CHURCH called you to tell you about the other wedding and ASSURED you that this other event would NOT AFFECT YOUR TIME.

Whoever from the church told the other bride that she can push back her time to the afternoon is WRONG , WRONG, WRONG, WRONG, WRONG.

Someone in authority from your church absolutely needs to call the other bride, not you, and tell her that whoever told her that she could now have the church in the afternoon was wrong.  The church staff needs to apologize to HER, not you, and tell her that the church is unable to acccommodate her request, because the other wedding was previously scheduled and cannot be moved.

Signed. Sealed. Delivered. End of story.

I suggest that you very sweetly, very kindly, very professionally, but very, very firmly, call the person in charge of scheduling events at your church and tell him or her all of this.

 

Post # 15
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187 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Southerngirl4234:   I understand what you mean by getting married in a corrupt church but since the coordinator is the one messing up I would go over their head and let the elders of the church know what is going on. They are the ones who should be able to make the best decision which would and should be in your favor. If that doesn’t occur than I would look elsewhere not only for your wedding but for you to attend church. It should be about love and respect not about cash and who is providing more of it. God does not operate in such a way. In the end it will turn out in God’s favor.

Post # 16
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3668 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

That’s messed up! You scheduled first. The other bride should have to make alternate arragements (different time or shorter ceremony), not you.

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