Post # 1
Grr…I went for my first wedding dress shopping trip last Saturday, and the salesperson was a royal pain in the arse!! All I wanted was a casual wedding dress that I could wear to a casual outdoor wedding (where most of the guests would be fairly casual too), and I kept getting big, poofy Disney dresses. Anything that wasn’t a Disney dress was a mermaid dress (which I repeatedly said I don’t like).
But the ladies at the store just clucked their tongues at the wilfull child’s stubbornness and reminded me, with the wisdom of the ages, that they hadn’t worn a veil at their wedding 50 billion years ago and had regretted it every day for the rest of their lives. Also, no woman would ever regret spending lots of money on a dress. “This is an investment in your youth. You’ll never be this young and beautiful again, so you absolutely must wear the most amazing dress to capture this special moment!” And no bride would ever regret having a dress that was too beautiful, but you will certainly regret it if you buy one that isn’t beautiful enough. Oddly enough, beauty corresponds with price tag!
Now, I know these ladies probably are used to women who think their wedding day is a magical fairytale come true, and I’m no stranger to the concept of upselling – I experience it when I go to KFC, or buying a new computer. But the cashier at KFC doesn’t give a crap if you don’t upsize – they ask once and it’s done. The guy selling a computer has usually got good arguments for upgrading – The graphics are so much better, more memory, quicker speed, etc. None of this “You’ll regret it for the rest of your life if you don’t buy a bigger, better computer!” bullshit.
And a computer is a good investment – I’ll use it daily for years. A wedding dress? Myeah, I’ll wear it a couple of times in the privacy of a seamstress’ room getting it fitted, then wearing it for a few hours on the wedding day, then put it into a cupboard because it’s sentimental. It’s part of my youth.
Post # 3
I completely agree- I wanted something fairly simple, no ball gown or mermaid. That was all fairly fine, I tried a couple on to make sure, definitely no. But there was one that did look gorgeous on, but was not what I was after, and was too sparkly for my taste (although it was gorgeous), had a big train and only came in stark white. The ladies in the shop obviously thought I should get that one, there was a lot of ‘you won’t get another chance to wear a dress like this’ and ‘the other was nice but you could wear it for something else’. Oddly enough, the one they were trying to get me to buy was the cheaper, but I really didn’t like their arguments- if I don’t like it, it doesn’t matter if I won’t get a chance to wear it, and I am never going to wear a lace champagne gown to anything other than my wedding!
Post # 4
urgh i agree! I too went to the bridal stores with a pretty clear idea of what i did and didnt want. Im am NOT a fairytale princess wedding girl at all. I wanted something classic, simple and elegant.
But regardless of the fact that i made this quite clear to the store assistants they kept bringing out hideous ball gowns, dresses drowning in “bling”, etc. Ultimately i found i just had to be a little bit blunt and get over my natural nature of being polite. In the end the manager pulled out a beautiful slim fit aline satin maggie dress that ticked all the boxes!
Stand your ground lady!
Post # 5
Ew, what kind of store did you go to??? Keep trying…maybe use words like “Grecian” or “Roman” or “flowy” to see if they get the picture…
Post # 6
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
WOW! That would be terrible – sorry you had such an experience. Better luck next time! 🙂
Post # 7
Pushy pushy hey! I went to a store and within 2 minutes of putting on a dress and saying I liked it, she was asking for money for a deposit. I was taken aback… Clearly they work on commission!
Post # 8
Yowza! I never had that.
They all thought I was the mother of some pretend bride but never pushy like that!
Post # 9
that happened to me…. i wanted something simple, nothing big and poofy… and the first 3 dresses she brought me were so big and poofy…. they looked horrible on me…. then she went and got me 3 more poofy dresses…. my mom was getting ticked off and finally piped up and pointed to the book and said “get her this one right now” …. and low and behold…. that was the dress!!! slim strapless slight trumpet dress
Post # 10
Thanks ladies!! I was starting to think I was the only person in the world who wanted a normal dress! Or possibly the only person in the world who spoke my language, so whenever I said “No, I really don’t like this dress,” they had no idea what I was saying.
I’ll admit, a lot of the dresses they had me try on, like @CanberraGal, looked amazing on me and did wonders for my figure, but if I’m at an outdoor wedding on my parents’ farm, I don’t want a dress that’s gonna drag in the dirt.
One day I’ll get there! I’m sure there’s a casual dress out there somewhere that wouldn’t look too out of place in a garden, looks nice, is not too expensive…actually, scrap that. I’m wearing jeans and a t-shirt too!
Post # 11
@LadyElva: Have you thought about getting a bridesmaid’s dress in white or ivory? They make a lot of beautiful ones. Dessy has a TON!
Post # 12
- Wedding: September 2012 - Mother of the Bride's residence
I bought online to avoid the whole thing. 🙂 Picked out a nice simple dress from J Crew and that was that! Maybe looking in not so traditional places might help? There seems to be a bit less pressure that way.
Post # 13
I loved my consultant–I picked out my own dresses, though I told him what I didn’t like. I didn’t want a complicated dress, although I tried on a couple just to see. I ended up with a flowy chiffon dress with some beading on the bodice. It was perfect.