Just a small vent

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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373 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Western:  if you’d been talking about getting her some help anyway, I don’t see the big deal? It sounds like a lot of pressure to be responsible for five people the day of a wedding that you’re a bridesmaid in. 

It sounds like your relationship with her is maybe tense already and now any comment she makes that you construe negatively ticks you off. Any reason why you don’t really care for her?

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

She sounds a little selfish and self-centered, just taking care of her own.  It does take a really long time to do updos though, so you’re probably better off getting someone else to take care of you and your mom.   But she might have put it in a more gracious way.

Post # 6
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147 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

In a way you may have dodged a bullet.

I wonder, if she is so selfish and self centred, if she would have ruined your day making a huge deal about what a contribution she is making and would not be able to take any criticism if people did not like or wanted her to tweak her work or just maybe would take too long. At least if you have paid someone and they are not family, they are not likely to kick up a huge stink.

It is a shame that she made so many demands of you when her wedding was around, though it may not particularly surprise you!

Post # 7
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627 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I’m with younglady! What if she decided she didn’t want to do your hair or any of the other girls hair afterall? I know it sucks when there is one person who is the sour apple in the group, but at least you will have someone doing your hair that you know will come through and do a great job. I have found that people that demanded the most in their wedding or whatever it may be, want to do the least for others. But it sounds like it’s no surprise that she’s behaving this way!

Post # 8
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I totally understand how demanding future sister in laws can be, however, I think this might just be one of those cases where you’re reading into this too much because of the tense relationship. Don’t forget, your wedding is also her brother’s wedding. As a result, she probably takes on a little more ownership of the wedding, and probably feels entitled to relax on your wedding day. Maybe you’re right, and she’s being rude intentionally, but isn’t it always better to assume the best when it comes to family? 
I hope your day goes wonderfully :). I’m sure you and your bridal party will look gorgeous on your big day! 🙂 

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper

@bridgeee:  This exactly.

Also OP it sounds like you feel a bit put out about havingher in your wedding. Even if you aren’t openly saying anything about it I can guarantee that your body language/facial expressions at time show your true feelings ont he subject. If it was me I wouldn’t want to possibly strain the relationship further by being in charge of the brides hair. I wouldn’t want to give the bride any more ammunition to hate me if she didn’t like her hair after I tried my best.

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