(Closed) Just a thought on religious advice giving…

posted 8 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

ive not noticed but im not super sensitive to any one religion so i guess i gloss over the posts without much personal interest/investment ((shrugs shoulders))

 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I just skip all of the religious ones : )

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I usually just comment on catholic rules… things that generally all catholics know about or things my priest told me.  When it comes to what you should do as a catholic, I can’t say anything because I don’t do it all.  hehe

Now, I’m thinking about it a little more and maybe I don’t tell people what they should do because I myself am not a strong/ strict catholic.  Maybe if I was, I might tell someone what they should do.

It’s kinda like politics.  If you are a strong republican or a strong democrat, you might argue more about it because you are so into it and so involved.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

I think you see that kind of thing on the Catholic board sometimes because it is pretty clear what the Catholic church teaches on most issues. Most of it is not really opinion, but what the church teaches. So I guess it could seem like lecturing, but its mostly just telling it like it is.

Post # 7
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Newbee

Bridepower I know exactly what you’re talking about!  It amazes me that people judge each other on religious boards.  Don’t people find that hypocritical?

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@ Bridepower

 

With all due respect, I don’t really think that it falls into the category of judging. I guess it all depends on what the future bride in coming to the Catholic section for.  Is she here to ask for an opinion? If so, then the same question can be asked anywhere and not specifically the Catholic section.  If she wants answers from a Catholic perspective, then I would hope that people would give her advice from the Church’s perspective as opposed to jsut providing “feel good” type answers.

Either way, if I have personally offended you in any of my answers, then I apologize for it. But if you would like to get answers as they pertain to our faith, then I will be more than glad to answer them that way. I’m not one to sugar coat answers for people, as that is a greater disservice to the future brides.

 

GOD BLESS…

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think most people with opinions on issues (particularly religious ones) are understandably apt to express, some more forcefully than others, especially when advice or opinions are asked for! 

I’m not sure if you mean this in general, or especially on the catholic board, but the catholic church does have a strong stances on issues, so it doesn’t surprised me that hive members would echo those values.

At Weddingbee, all types of views and opinions are tolerated, so we can all express our religious convictions and coexist!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

If this is purposefully on the Catholic board to make a comment about the Catholic Bees or those who respond, I think you may be seeing that Catholicism is a really rules based form of Christianity.

Edit: just saw that you are Catholic, so forget that I said this.

 

New response: I think it is an area where strong opinions are the norm.

Post # 11
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Newbee

I feel like I am lucky to belong to a very liberal Catholic church.  

My church community even includes a large Gay and Lesbian network and welcomes diversity.  I think this makes it very unique and I hope that it is a sign that this is where the Catholic church is headed.  With the church’s new “come home” campaign I think that a tolerant and accepting position is the best one the church can take to attract a younger generation of Catholics who may have been turned off by strict rules in the first place.

 

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@ Miss Badger – You are correct, the Catholic Church does want people to come home. However, the stance on morality will not change.  For instance, gays and lesbians are also children of GOD.  They should be accepted and loved as human being, but this does not mean that the Church should “accept” the lifestyle or the act. In fact, it should do the opposite and stand firm on the teachings.

Love the person, hate the sin…

Liberalism is not what the Church needs.  This is why over 30k different churches have already been started, by one breaking away from another just because they cannot all agree on a single point.  We all have opinions, but that does not make all of us right.  There is only one right answer… and the Church is there to help us discern what that answer is…

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Since this is on the Catholic board I will just say that; if someone tells an answer based on Church teaching than it is that. Church teaching.  If you profess this faith; Based on Scripture and Tradition; then yes, you will get matter of fact responses.

Miss Badger – The church has no qualms with homosexuality.  It has a problem with acting upon it.  Regardless of sexual orientation, it considers an act outside of marriage that doesn’t lead to the openness of having children wrong. i.e. If you can’t have children (male/male; female/female), one of the 2 primary ends of the Sacrament of Marriage, then you shouldn’t have “arousal.”

Interestingly, it’s the “younger generation of Catholics” who are pushing for a return to the “old way” which is less “liberal”

ETA: This would also include acts of sex outside marriage between hetero couples, and those using BC.

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

i admit that i’ve found some of the answers on the catholic board to be a bit, erm, lecture like. and it’s kept me away from the catholic board. (i know my posting number is small, but i lurk a lot.)

as a catholic, i enjoy reading about catholic weddings and issues that arise within the church. and there is no denying that there are definite church teachings on certain issues.

but one thing that i love about the catholic church is that it’s a gigantic, diverse body of people that’s teeming with life. and the teachings of the church are to be discussed and questioned. this intellectual strain of catholicism is a big reason of why i love the church so much.

i do sometimes wish that a healthy debate could be fostered, instead of simply ‘this is what the chruch says, end of discussion.’

@rumblebee you may not believe liberalism is what the church needs, but many of us do. and we’re all catholic and need to feel welcome on this board.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I would like to insert a note here that within 11 comments we have moved to a discussion of the contentious Catholic church issues, which was exactly NOT the intent of the original question.

So bridepower, my answer to your question is a resounding yes: religious-based posts tend to involve citation of the revelant parts of church teaching. When you have any group whose rules are as highly codified as the Church’s are, it’s bound to happen. It’s like if you wanted to talk about law with a bunch of lawyers…each would start citing laws and legal precedents (I know that’s an imperfect analogy). Faiths with less defined precepts (or purposefully broadly defined ones) will naturally have less of this.

What are we supposed to do about it? LatteLove said it really well a few comments above me—in a great community like Weddingbee, I think the best we can do is live and let live and try to understand where people are coming from.

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@ TexicanMexican – Don’t get me wrong, I think everyone on this site is wonderful and it’s good to have healthy discussions, as this also fosters learning. Liberalism however, seeks to diverge from the teachings of GOD and the Church.  Liberalism is the concept of…

 

“…agreeing that things are ok, morally and spiritually, just so that someone does not feel alienated, even though they are not ok…”

 

“…sugar coating things, when in reality, presenting the truth is more beneficial to others…”

 

We have to love others enough to not be scared to share the truth. Would I be doing a person more justice by saying that it’s ok when it’s not, just to spare some feelings? Or would I be a better friend to take the road less traveled and say that I care enough to tell you the truth?

 

ANyhow… GOD BLESS…

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