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Before everyone gets defensive, please let me explain. I think it is a problem when plus size women are put in a catagory as if they are seperate from everyone else. I would be equally uneasy if there were seperate boards for short, tall, black, or the like. Is segregating from other boards healthy? What could possibly be discussed here that wouldn't belong on another board too? Again, I am not trying to cause problems, I am just a bit perplexed. I am short 5'2". I wouldn't feel the need to have a board for short people, in fact I would be put off by that.
i personally would love a short board. I often feel out of place and would like to see posts about situations/photos/encouragment about being a short bride.
js.
I think there is a board for pretty much everything. I am hispanic and I am in no way offended by the "latino" board.
well technically there IS an african american board, but i know what you mean about the full-figured thing.
i say it all the time about SYTTD big bliss.
why are those brides seperated from the others? it's not ok.
I think the full figured board was created because users asked for it.
i sort of agree with you and I def understand what you are saying. as a plus sized gal I am so sick of being seperated because I wear a size 16. It is very annoying. But i guess it is something i am just getting used to....
Personally I like the full figured category, it helps me as a plus size bride to know what other plus size brides have to say. I see nothing wrong with it
In the interest of full disclosure I should tell you that I am 5'2" and 130lb. I totally understand that there may be perspectives that I can not understand because of my size. My sister is a plus size girl and I would never want her to feel like she is in any way seperate from anyone else.
I get what you're saying. Another thing that annoys me: I'm slender, and get called "too skinny" all the time. It's honestly offensive, because being "too" anything is offensive! I would never say someone is too fat, but I'm too skinny? It makes a girl self-concious!
The full figured board exists because people asked for it, and because there was enough posts on the topic that it merited a separate board. I think there are some issues that are specific to plus size brides (like not being able to fit into samples, where to buy undergarments, etc). People seem to enjoy and use the board. :)
@burris4: i agree with you. every time i see "full figured" on here it leaves a bit of a bad taste in my mouth. it's like a constant reminder i'm overweight and am labeled as such.
I personally love the full figured board since I'm a plus size bride. It's nice to have a place to come to discuss issues that we face. Sure, the dress board is nice and all but sometimes it's just not realistic for women of my size. I know everyone can post on the dress board and I have in the past but if I'm logging onto WB to search for hair inspiration or a certain dress style that may work for me, I'm going directly to the full figured board since I'm more likely to find what I'm looking for here.
I'm not sure why but I can't help but be annoyed by this thread. I just don't see the point in questioning it. And for the record, I happened to love SYTTD: Big Bliss.
@His Lil SantosGirl: I would also love to have a "short" board :) I am 5 feet
For the "short" brides, I think there was talk a long time ago about a Petites board, but it never caught on. You should put it in the ideas section for people to vote on!
i think the act of segregating itself acknowledges a difference in whatever it is that sets them aside from other groups in society. it still amazes me how there is 'black tv' and fraturnities/sorrorities for blacks. um, that doesn't really put us a step forward in ending racism, it supports it, in my opinion.
Ha, I think this is turning into an unintentional plea for a "petite" board! I'm 5'1".
@UpstateCait: I am sorry if you feel offended. I have a three year old daughter who had to have one of her legs amputated because of a birth defect. I think parenting her, and seeing the way people respond to her and her prosthesis, has made me very aware of how people are catagorized. If y'all benefit from the board then it has a purpose for being here. I just come from a perspective that we are all more alike than we are different, thats all.
@nontraditionalmiami: Amen! We have disagreed in the past, but that is exactly how I see it too.
@Imagelicious: I'd rock the forums on a short board. I'd talk shoes and jeans all the live long day, haha.
There have been some previous requests for a petite board:
http://ideas.weddingbee.com/topic/boards-for-tall-brides-and-petite-brides
But there just haven't been that many posts about being a short bride. Meanwhile, the Full Figured board has 11 pages of posts:
@mrbee: Boy you were quick on that one. I like your style ;)
@mrbee: Thanks Mr Bee! I knew I had seen a post on that somewhere.....
I'm going to go comment on it now. :D
@spaniel: It was! The full figured board was only created because users requested it. It's more of a place to find support from people who face the same issues within wedding planning (like dealing with sample sizes and sales people who tell you to hold a dress up instead of actually trying it on, and other ridiculousness) than to separate people out.
@His Lil SantosGirl: I agree! I'd like a board for short girls so we can have a better idea of dresses and shoes that work for us!
I'm not quite full figured (but that depends on how you define full figured), but I do find the board helpful. I would love a short board (I'm 5'3").
I do understand what you mean about the separation/segregation. I guess for me in a board format it's just a way to filter posts so that's OK.
The only problem I have with the full figured board is some posters think it's OK because it's in the Full Figured Board to make fun of those that are not full figured as less of a woman. Or poke fun, etc. Whether it be intentional or not. That's annoying to me.
And yes, I know I can flag their posts. But whatever, in the grand scheme of things it's no matter to me what a random person on a internet board says or doesn't say.
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re: "Petite" Board. I tried a couple times! But every time this topic comes up everyone is gung ho about it. But when it comes down to it "petite" girls don't really post about specific petite issues. *shrugs* Like there are lots of posts about sample sizes being too small but not really posts about samples being too long. Or too big for very skinny girls, etc, which IS def a problem as much as samples being too small! :)
You know what - I agree with a lot of what was said above in support of those of us who WANTED the full figured board. The only thing I wanted to add is this - as a size 16 bridal and a 14 street, never in my life would have have considered myself plus sized or full figured UNTIL the first time I went to try on wedding dresses. It was so hard to find anywhere that had samples to fit me - and probably the worst I had ever felt about myself or my image.
Being able to talk to other ladies on WB was one thing that really helped. It's not 'segregation' so much as women who know what other women are going through.
@christalynn11: Totally agree with you about it not making you feel segregated from the rest of WB. I just feel a little more comfortable asking advice about dress fittings/styles from someone similar to my size (18/20) than from a petite size 6 who may not understand some of my concerns about pudge overspill, lol. So thank you for having the FF board, I love it!
@Gerbera: You were made fun of as being less than a woman because you're not full-figured? That's horrible, what goes through some people's minds? Sorry you had that experience.
I understand what you're saying about having these apparently segragated boards and that it could be viewed as taking a step back. But in all reality, we have our differences just like we have our similarities. Here, boards arent segragated in a bad way, but in a supportive way where people that face like matters can go to discuss things with other they know face the thing. Theres a big difference between acknowledging differences and embracing them vs segragating/judging/categorizing people based on these difference... which I feel like is what you are concerned with.
I like all of the "specialty"boards and as an African-American bride, I found the AA board to be a wonderful resource and a community of people similar to myself who could give me helpful advice and opinions of hair and makeup that others generally couldn't.
AA sororities and fraternities were actually founded in reaction to the exclusion we faced from white groups and and are all about inclusion. They do allow, admit and welcome members of all races (and have them), but sadly, most non-AA people seeking to join a fraternity or sorority do not consider them a viable option (hmm). They do wonderful things in the community and have a rich history of building character in AA people and others; BET— not so much.
As a "big girl", I really like the full-figured boards. Yes, it segregates us, but the rest of the world segregated us first.
Maybe one of these days dieting won't necessarily be a prerequisite for walking down the aisle, and "sample size" will be whatever size we happen to be at the time. Maybe we won't be faced with choosing between "matronly" and "dowdy"--not to mention paying an additional feee for the "privilege" of doing so. Until then, I'm glad there's a place I can go where I won't have to worry about being judged by people who have NO IDEA what it's like. Even though I know people in other areas of the 'bee wouldn't judge me, sometimes I don't want to be the one fat girl posting her dress photos on a page full of skinny Minnies, you know? I like that I can go to "full figured" and see all the big, beautiful women rocking their dresses on their special day. Kinda makes me feel like there's still hope, despite what the WIC says, that even if I don't lose a single pound, I could still be beautiful at my wedding.
@AmuseMeMusically: Thats the best thing I've read all day! Thank you for so eloquently putting that.
I've been a size 8/10 for all of my adult life and never realized that plus-sized was so close to my size. I walked into a store once where the plus-sized section was 14 and up. 14?! That's only 2 pant sizes away from where I am! I started freaking out... maybe I'm not as healthy as I thought? Until I realized that all of those size guides and what's considered plus sized has been brought down through the years, it's society. I don't think a lot of the women on the full-figured boards should be there, they look perfectly fine to me. Sorry-- end ramble/.
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