(Closed) Just a Vent

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2053 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Aure: That’s a shame that she said that. I hope it is just an isolated incident with your great aunt. It sounds like she is taking it personally that she didn’t get a formal announcement, and now she is taking it out on you by making it seem others aren’t excited. How the heck does she know; did she take a poll? Chin up. You have moved past so much. Don’t let her getcha down. 🙂

Post # 4
1473 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I can understand how your aunt might feel hurt. She IS your Godmother afterall. I also understand that you may not be super close to her, but I’m sure she feels left out that you didn’t persoanlly call her yourself and let her hear it from another source. I don’t think this has anything to do with your family not liking your Fiance, but your family just not liking or appreciating how they found out. They may not seem as excited because maybe they weren’t sure to believe it or not since it didn’t come from you? Family can be very confusing sometimes.  I wouldn’t take it personally but don’t be surprised if you encouter more of the same with other members of your family.

Post # 5
2701 posts
Sugar bee

@Aure: I am SO sorry. Your aunt obviously has no manners or cares how you feel, and that is a shame. I think it is great that you were able to work through a ten year age difference and now your family has warmed up to him. No wonder you didn’t do a formal announcement for everyone, look how they’re acting. The whole thing seems gossipy to me. It sounds like you got engaged and it trickled down the pipeline but no one called to congratulate, instead to question and assume. What did she even mean “is it for real or is it pretend?” What in the heck is that supposed to mean? I am sorry some of your family members have been unsupportive but I hope eventually everyone will come around to make it a joyous occasion.

Post # 6
62 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Aure: Sorry you are going through this. I don’t know why that some people get all upset about age differences. I was Maid/Matron of Honor in a friend’s wedding and her and her hubby had about a 10 year age difference. Sadly, many of his friends didn’t attend the wedding because of it.

It’s about the love between the two people, age is just a number. Sorry to hear you are going through this, hugs to you!

Post # 8
3801 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Aure: HAHAHA you are in the same boat as me! I’m laughing because we chose to just use facebook and call our immediate family. Several of FI”s aunts/uncles/cousins have said that noone is excited for our wedding b/c we didnt ‘announce it properly’. Between the two of us, we joke about our ‘fake’ and ‘invisible’ engagement. psh. People ARE SO RIDICULOUS!!!!!!!

Post # 10
164 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Oh gosh, I am so sorry to hear that!  May I ask your age?  I’m not trying to say that in any way anybody (especially your family) should try to take the joy away from this awesome time, but I wonder if that is part of their reservation.

My mom was slow to warm up to my engagement.  In fact, even know (over a year later, and 2 weeks to the wedding) she acts flippant about it at times.  Maybe some people just handle big events strangely??

Either way, congratulations on your engagement!!! I hope you can enjoy the rest of it 🙂

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