Post # 1
My Darling Husband is the IT Manager of a software company. His company is moving offices next month so he’s been working extra hours to get everything ready. He’s at the office for 10 hours a day, give or take, and continues to work from home in the evenings. He worked all day last Saturday, and most of the day today (Sunday). I’ve been asking for the past two hours if he’s almost done, so we can watch some TV together.
I know how important his job is but I can’t help but be sad that we’re spending very little time together lately. At least things should calm down a bit or him after the move.
Can anyone relate?
Post # 3
@iheartnerds: Girl…. YES. Like yours, mine is in IT too. He’s the director of the NYC branch of his office and he’s ALWAYS connected to his e-mail and phone. He sometimes gets emergency calls at like 4am in the morning for when the servers in the other branches are down and has to walk them through these emergencies. When we vacationed in Barbados, he had to check his e-mail and get on the phone.. I was like wth..! He complains constantly about working for corporate. Does yours?
Oh and here’s a clincher.. my FH had to miss my SISTER’s wedding 2 wks ago because the hurricane destroyed so much around here and he had to be available for when power came back on…. sigh
Post # 4
I can sort of relate. It is hunting season. So until December 8th I will see very little of my husband. It always makes me sad. But I try not to let it show.
Post # 5
@romantical: He doesn’t actually complain that much but I can tell he gets really frustrated sometimes. I know exactly what you mean about working on vacation. Mine had to remotely fix a work problem during our honeymoon! Pretty much anytime we try to go away, he gets calls and e-mails from panicked coworkers because everything falls apart in DH’s absence.
That really stinks about your sister’s wedding! Darling Husband canceled the plans we had today because he had to be in the office.
Post # 6
@orangefairy: I’ve never been involved with a hunter but I imagine it must be tough!
Post # 7
Yes, My Fi consults and builds different companies security systems and he does have some clients he does other it stuff for. That means he can work anywhere anytime, and because he has clients on both coast he often does.
Although I have a bit of workholic problem myself so I tend to pull my laptop and work too!
But I have a work hard, play harder mentality. So after my busy periods we both try to decompress, and I do get pissed because He Never Ever turns off his phone. When we go on vacation he will pay for a international roaming and data. Drives me crazy.
We worked out that he checks the phone a few times, and at dinner or an excurision he completely turns it off(so I don’t break the freaking thing).
Be glad it will be over soon. In the meantime even if it’s one hour at dinner, or a tv show, your Dh needs to make some time for you.
Post # 8
Oh man, I feel you. We should start a club My SO worked in investment banking for 2 years and is now working in another job in finance… We hoped that this would be less hours but its still 12-16 hours a day, plus weekends. Even vacations are working vacations. I wish I had advice for you. But basically, it sucks. I empathize with you. Hope his schedule clears up soon!
Post # 9
My FH works at a major company here in Washington, and is a software developer. We’ve only been here for a few weeks, and he immediately started working 10-12 hour days. Now that I don’t have any friends around, and I’m not doing anything, I feel upset with the amount of hours he works.
These kind of jobs are a big deal, because the functioning of a website is solely in their hands — and working for a major company that thousands of people use on a daily basis, there is no room for error, and no time to say “this can wait.”
I can definitely relate.
Post # 10
Yup I see Dh two days a week 🙁
Post # 11
I’m one of those people who is constantly working. I feel really bad about it, but my situation is a weird mix of my own work ethic, and the fact that I’m a consultant and I have to abide by the work expectations of both my company, and my clients. At the current moment, neither my boss nor my clients employees seem to have lives, so that means I work constantly.
I hate it, but it is the nature of what I do. I know it bothers my SO… and I try to disconnect when I’m supposed to (on vacation, etc) but I can’t because I know if I miss an email, etc I will hear about it and possibly have to defend myself to my client. It’s one of the reasons I’m getting out of consulting– being driven like a slave by people who just assume you have nothing better to do, sucks.
Post # 12
When the long hours make you sad, think about military wives that have to go 9 months to a year without seeing their hubbs. Don’t mean to sound harsh when I say that, but it’s something I remind myself of to. Hubbs works long hours sometimes but I am glad he’s not deployed right now.
Post # 13
I hear you!! Fiance is always working. It used to bother me alot but now I just do my own thing. I hate being home without him so I just study at a coffee shop or have dinner with girlfriends. I miss him… at least you can see that it should be over soon!
Post # 14
I feel you, ladies!!
My husband is a hockey referee and I’m a teacher. We both work over 40 hours a week. I work during the day…he works days, evenings, and weekends. I see him an hour here, an hour there. I literally have to force him to take time off to spend time together!!
Luckily, the hockey season is not 12 months of the year…but it’s close to it!
Post # 15
@roweboat: Oh, good point! I remind myself of this too, somethimes it helps, sometimes…. less so. But only when I am feeling really bratty
Post # 16
I can relate. When my Fiance gets on a film/tv show, it’s pretty much over in terms of seeing him. He will be on set at 5am and come home at 11pm and those are the good hours! The worst are days when there is little turnaround…he’s actually gotten pulled over for driving erratically because he was so exhausted and the police made a bet on whether he was drunk. :/
It’s tough in his line of work, but I’m pretty independent and I just made do with the time we do have together. And his paycheck ain’t bad either.