Post # 1
SO and I were talking last night about what we’d like to do for our wedding. We’re planning on saving 5k so that should we be the only ones contributing, we can just get married in a park and have a small party or something of the like. But last night we tossed around this idea…get married at a courthouse with our families, then take off immediately and just rent a big house somewhere in the tropics and invite our friends to basically take our ‘honeymoon’ with us! It seems crazy, but totally awesome. Like, basically, rent out a big house, tell our friends when and where, and whoever can come, comes!
I know it’s so much more logistically complicated than that, but on first glance it seems awesome! Our friends are communal and funky, so we could do some kind of fun weird vow ceremony in front of them while on vacation, and spend the rest of it just vacationing – surfing, cooking feasts, drinking wine. Ahhhh, sounds like the life.
Did anyone do this in real life? I know it’s not what people expect, but we’re not traditional either!
Post # 3
I think that sounds like a great idea! My partner and I are signing the papers here with just my folks and his folks at the registry and then just the two of us a jetting to Paris to have the ceremony and straight on to a honeymoon holiday.Originally we wanted to have friends and family with us like you described but it was too hard to get everyone together in the end so we opted for this choice after a series of complications/events. Congrats! I think you’ve stumbled on to a winner of a plan 😀
Post # 4
I think if that sounds like the perfect wedding for you then go for it!!!
Post # 5
This couple rented a house near Yosemite for just their families, had the cermeony, went to dinner, then returned to the home for dessert and a fire.
“get married at a courthouse with our families, then take off immediately”
If you do a courthouse wedding first, remember you do need to host your guests (who ever came to see you get married) whether it be a brunch at a local restaurant or dinner or a cake/punch reception. So techincally don’t “take off immediately” – well maybe after brunch first!
Also would your friends be OK with sharing your honeymoon house with you? I rented 6 individual cabins for our (former) wedding weekend for guests to use and no one slected one of the cabins NEXT us! Why? They thought we’d be making too much noise on our wedding night and didn’t want to impede. So just a thought – people might feel odd being in the same house on your honeymoon.
Post # 6
If thats truely what you want, then I’d say go for it. Think hard about it first though.
My Fiance suggested inviting others on the honeymoon and I said absolutely not. He said his brother would love to hang out with us and he’s sure my brothers would love to come too. This is not my idea of a honeymoon. I want my honeymoon to be private and romantic and spontaneaous. It wouldn’t be if others, especially my brothers, were there.
Post # 7
it sounds awesome! im having a courthouse wedding and then dinner with fam n friends!
Post # 8
That sounds awesome!
While I don’t think that you technically “need” to host your guests for anything, I think it might be nice to do something with your family either right before or right after the courthouse ceremony. You could do dessert at your house or a relatives house (you could even do potluck dessert which would make it super easy), going out to dinner at a restaurant, BBQ at a park, going out to a local watering hole for drinks, bowling, etc. Doesn’t really matter what, just something to allow you to bask in the moment and celebrate with your family, whom I’m assuming you like given that they’re invited to the wedding.
The logistics of getting friends together for the vacation could be difficult. Maybe get a commitment from the most important ones and rent the house based on that, then let everyone else know where you’ll be and they could get houses or hotel rooms close by if they can come. That way you’re not stressing over organizing a big group of friends. Then everyone could meet at the big house for food/wine/hanging out.
I think it sounds like an awesome idea if you can get it organized. Good luck and let us know how it goes!
Post # 9
@JenGirl: Sigh, so many logistics! But yes, if we did a courthouse thing, we would just do it with our families, as none of our friends live in the same place. And we would do a dinner/lunch, something along those lines.
As for the trip portion, yeah, so many logistical issues, but it just sounds amazing. We know not a lot of people would be able to make it, but it would definitely be memorable. And I think we’re confident we’d have enough people, just maybe too many! Things to think about…
Also, we’re not engaged yet, so we’ve got time to think. But we were planning on getting married in 2013, so definitely not too far away.