Post # 1
After wrestling with the cake design for the last sixth months, I finally decided today to leave some of the decisions up to the cake lady!
Honestly, nothing at my wedding will surprise me, b/c I’ve planned all of it down to the smallest detail. My FH doesn’t know everything, so he’ll have surprises along the way — and I kind of want a surprise too. So, the cake lady gets to decide what the bottom tier and top tier of my cake looks like — each tier is decorated differently (second tier has sugar crystals, third tier has a ribbon around it).
Are you going to have any surprises to look forward to at the wedding? Am I nuts for giving the cake lady some creative freedom??
Post # 3
No, I think it’s cool. As long as you trust her taste (or don’t mind too much if something goes awry) I think it’s great to have a little surprise on your wedding day.
Post # 4
That’s awesome! I almost said the same thing to my cake maker… but she insisted we plan it all out! lol
Post # 5
I was reading the thread about wedding regrets and a lot of people mentioned being unhappily surprised by what the cake looked like. (As in, they did not expect to be surprised; it just came out different than what they asked for.) So I think if you go into it expecting to be surprised, and open to whatever your baker comes up with, you’ll be ahead of the game! I’m planning to ask my venue (a restaurant) to make a small cake that looks like a wedding cake and, beyond that, I don’t really care. So I guess it will be a surprise!
Post # 6
@Eglantine: I so agree.. I also think the same thing applies to hair! The best updo’s/partial updo’s/formal hair do’s I’ve gotten were not when I showed them what I wanted… it was when I told them what I liked and let them roll with it!
Post # 7
Sounds like this may have caused your cake problem! I’ve found that specifics are always better than “surprise me!”
She may be less likely to give you a refund since you gave her creatvie license with some of the parts that you didnt like
Post # 8
I think it’s nice that you can be so relaxed about that! There are some things I don’t care that much about, but the cake wasn’t one of them. We went to a custom bake shop and she is amazing!! The cake is almost $900 for 135 people. I used her for my shower cake it and was even better than the picture I gave her. I look forward to seeing my cake!!!!! Some things I just have spent too much money on for it to be a surprise. The flowers, however, I am not too picky about!!
Post # 9
My Step Grandmother in Law offered to make the cake but didn’t want to do how I wanted… so now I have no idea what I’m getting. Your brave. Part of me is excited but part of me is super scared….
I guess thats cause I spent ALOT of time looking at cakes and was really set on what I wanted ( pearls) but she didnt’ want to cause they taste gross- so that makes me know at least its going to taste delicious!
Post # 10
I had my best friend surprise me with my wedding cake. I gave him ideas and colors and told him to do whatever he wanted and I didn’t see it till the day before my wedding. I loved it! I criewherein I saw it.