Post # 1
Its been a while since I’ve been on the ‘bee…its good to be back!
I need some advice. My new brother in law just got engaged to his girlfriend, and she was sweet enough to ask me to be a bridesmaid in their wedding. Only problem is….my master’s field training in Central America starts the day after they want to have the wedding, and there is no way I can make it in time. I was already struggling with the timing of things because I am going to miss my first wedding anniversary because of this, and now I may be missing the first big event in my new family. I would never dream of asking them to plan their wedding around me, but it just sucks because if their wedding was just a week earlier, I could be there!
What should I do?! Would it be crazy to make huge waves with my training team just to be at this wedding? I wanted to be there anyhow, but now that I’ve been asked to play a role in the wedding, I feel even worse about missing it.
Post # 3
@farmersdaughter: Welcome back. I would just be upfront about it. Your training sounds like it’s been planned for a while. You should just tell them while you would love to be there, you have to be in Central America at the same time and there is no way that can be changed. You don’t want to ask your training team to delay the trip. I wouldn’t. Is the date set in stone? like have they put deposits down? Maybe they will understand and push it back a week. The best thing to do is talk to them now instead of later.
Post # 4
I’m not sure how close you are to your brother and his FI, but couldn’t you discuss this with them? It can’t hurt, right? That way you can explain to your brother’s FI that you want to be her support team (bridesmaid) for her marriage to your brother, but you have a prior commitment. That puts the ball is in her court. If she decides to change the date then its because she wants to. And if she decides not to change the date, then at least she knows why you have to turn down her request and she wont think you don’t like her. 🙂