Post # 1
Ok, so let me just say this is really a rant about my mother. Who just found out she is diabetic, and is flipping out. She now thinks that she now needs to “spread the word” about her new awareness. Yes mom, I know that its essential to eat right and exercise (whether you’re diabetic or not). And I am proud of you for turning over a new leaf. But please don’t tell me that I need to “watch the weight and get moving”. You are 2 inches shorter than me, 50 pounds heavier, and 25 years older- think that might have something to do with it? She is seriously laying on guilt because of HER health issues. I am totally going to supprt her and bite my tongue, but I really just needed to vent and I appreciate the weddingbee for letting me!
Post # 3
I see where you are coming from and nobody likes to be scolded or chastized or prodded about body/health issues, but it sounds like she really is just trying to look out for you in her own way. That’s what moms do. But let’s face it here, being diabetic isn’t a day in the park. My fiance is diabetic and it is constantly on his mind and mine – it has to be. One wrong step and he can be in a diabetic coma or worse. You don’t want that. Being diabetic is a full-time job on top of the life you already have. This is a major life change and it will be with her for a long time. She’s probably just venting and could use some love and support in return while she adjusts and copes with this new lifestyle. It sounds like she doesn’t want you to go through what she’s going through – sounds like an expression of love to me. And though it may be a little irritating to hear all the time, what’s wrong with spreading the awareness so others can understand diabetes and (hopefully) not suffer in the future? I think she’s doing a good thing. If I were in this situation (and I am in a similar one, so I do understand), I would just soldier up and let her talk and tell you what she’s telling you. It doesn’t seem like she is saying anything mean or hurtful or insulting to you. It’s a small sacrafice for you to make when she’s having to live with diabetes for the rest of her life.
Post # 4
Yeah I understand where you are coming from. Maybe she is just kind of embarassed about it – people can be in denial for a long time until something like that hits them… then they are forced to face the fact that they are at an unhealthy weight. It may just be a way of coping for her – like she doesn’t want to feel like she is alone in being unhealthy… does that make sense? But you are right, nobody likes to be prodded about weight issues no matter what the circumstances..
Post # 5
@rawrkitty – I totally didn’t mean to minimize the seriousness of the situation. I am very concerned about (and sympathetic to) her health situation- especially since we watched her own mother die from diabetes complications two years ago. I am kind of frustrated beacuse she knows better- and didn’t do anything to prevent developing it. I genuinely do hope that she changes her lifestyle and I will do everything I can to support it. You’re right- she probably is just trying to look out for me- I just want her to take her own advice!
Post # 6
Maybe this is your mom’s way of coping with her diagnosis? If she can get you to pick up some good habits, may it makes her feel better about herself having diabetes? I am sorry that she is being frustrating, but it is great that you are being so supportive. Stay strong lady! She does it because she appreciates you.
Post # 7
I understand both sides of this. Diabetes runs in both sides of my family, My father just found out that he has it, but is in denial. Because of this, my entire family has tried to start eating a lot healthier…but at the same time, I LOVE my chips and dip. I want my Dad to be heathy, and I don’t want to end up with diabetes, but I don’t want to end up in fear that I will end up with diabetes.
I watched my grandmother go through the worst, and I am seriously afraid to watch someone else go through that; yet, I don’t want to live my life in fear.
Do what you can to live a healthier life for both of you. Vent here, eat SUPER healthy around her, be happy 🙂
Post # 8
I understand where you are coming from and can see how it could be frustrating, but I also can understand where your mother is coming from. Diabetic tendencies are passed genetically and seem to run in your family, as you mentioned your grandmother as well. They also run in my family. However, starting a healthier lifestyle now can help prevent it later or at least make it easier. I have seen this through my father. He did not have a healthy lifestyle while I was growing up and it was hard on him when he was diagnosed because of all the things he had to give up. Not just sugar, but bread and pasta too. Watching him has made me realize that if I moderate myself now and get in good diet and exercise habits, it greatly lowers my risk for being diagnosed later and if I am it will make the transition easier.