"Just being there for her."… how to do this as a Bridesmaid!

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@KatB12:  I’m following this for suggestions.  My bestie is getting married next year and I would love some ideas.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@KatB12:  Whenever one of my friends gets married…1 week before I send them the song “Final Countdown” by Europe. While it doesn’t calm nerves, I’ve been told it gives them a chuckle and adds to the excitement. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Just her knowing you care and want to send a thoughtful note will be plenty.  No need to make it artificially “cute”, although you might want to let her know that she doesn’t need to text or e-mail back.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Cute pics and notes/stories that remind her of how awesome her fiance is and why she is marrying him! Also since you’re sending several you could do the same to remind her of why she chose certain bridesmaids, and how honored everyone is to be standing with her… also cute things her parents/siblings have said about her fiance and how much everyone likes him. Maybe pics of the two of you as kids if you’ve known her a long time, or their baby pics to show them how cute their kids are going to be. Anything that reminds her of why she said Yes in the first place.  

 Most couples I know were kind of at each other’s throats in the last two weeks leading up to the wedding due to nerves and stress, and then you start to hear people say things like I just want it to be over with already! If I got little notes like that it would remind me to slow down and enjoy every minute of this once in a lifetime event.  I would stay away from something that reminds her that the wedding is only two days away and she still has a S*** load of stuff to do haha

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I love all these suggestions! I would cry if a friend sent me even ONE message like this. This is really sweet of you, OP. I had a heart to heart with MOH last night about how she hasn’t been “there for me” and she was really apologetic and asked for suggestions on how she can do better. Honestly, I don’t need a big elaborate display, just an occasional (once per week or so?) phone call to show some love, ask how I’m doing, let me vent if needed. I don’t have a problem speaking up if I need help (not the type to wallow instead of admitting that I need some love or attention from a friend). So, it particularly hurt my feelings when I tried to call HER and after multiple tries she didn’t pick up or didn’t at least text/call/email to let me know that she would call me later. This went on for about 2 months of her just straight up ignoring me. It nearly reduced me to tears when she promised to call me one day (we’re in different time zones, I had to stay up way past my bedtime to wait for her call) and she never called. I emailed her the next morning to ask what happened and she gave me “hey, my bad. It slipped my mind.” I felt like garbage after that. 

I’d say that brides just need a little extra bit of love, extra bit of support, a little more attention than normal. If your normal way of showing love is not extremely supportive or attentive, I’m sure would appreciate you turning it up just a tiny notch.

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@KatB12:  Thanks 🙂  It’s definitely fun watching one of your closest friends go through one of the happiest times in their life.  We just started looking at wedding stuff for her (she got engaged at the end of April).  I’m actually terrible with words and saying thoughtful things (I constantly put my foot in my mouth), plus I’m just not all warm and lovey; so I’m trying to up my game a bit.  I recently ordered samples of paper and cardstock (I’m making her invites) and I’m going to have her over for an afternoon tea (little sandwiches, cake pops, scones, etc) so she can pick what she likes.  Plus I think her man is tired of hearing wedding stuff already, so this will give him a nice break lol.

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Personally, I’d send her a related meme or someecard every day. lol

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@vorpalette:  that’s brilliant!  I’m totally using that idea.

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@housebee:  I saw this one this morning and loved it:

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@KatB12 ; Im getting married in just over 2 weeks and these are all good suggestion. A cute story about her and the fiance. Or a story about you guys before she met him. Something funny could definitely help… and WINE! My friend is coming over tonight and our plan is to go on a walk, talk, and then drink wine. I think it will be perfect to help ease the stress.

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