Post # 1
My matron (my older sister) is giving me so much trouble about the freaking dresses. I originally picked out the Victoria’s Secret convertible dress. I thought this would be good since everyone has such different body types in my wedding party. Well, as my matron was scoping out the dress, she noticed there was a tighter, more alluring dress with ruching on the suggestion page of the convertible dress’ website. She was suggesting she get it for herself because she didnt think the convertible dress would be flattering on her (why a tighter dress would be the solution on a more round body, I have no idea). When I expressed true frustration and irritation at her attempt to show off more of her body than I wanted her to show, she suggested other dresses. Then when I said that some of the more traditional bridesmaids dresses weren’t going to be flattering, she rebuffed that the converible dress was “obviously not for everyone”.
I TOOK THE TIME AND DID THE RESEARCH TO PICK A DRESS FOR EVERYONE TO FIT EVERYONE…JUST BUY THE DRESS I PICKED OUT AND STFU!!!
Sorry…just had to get that out
Post # 3
I told my girls they could get either the rouched or the flirty convertible dress, thinking that they could save money and they would know if it would work for them, plus I saw a youtube video of the rouched and it doesn’t actually look that tight in person. BUT they all chose the flirty one, so I am perfectly happy. Only one girl bought it and says she can’t figure out a great way to wear it. so i don’t know what to do about that, but everyone else really digs it. Sorry about your Matron.
Maybe you could have one of the girls who bought it already bring it to a gathering so she can try it on. That’s what one of my girls did and the others all got a chance to try before they bought.
Post # 4
im confused as to why she thinks it wont look good on everyone. the dress is designed to be worn any way possible, so it seems like it can fit anyones style.
i think the dress is great for a BM dress! they can wear it again and its not very costly, plus its just fun!
Wanting a tighter dress, to me sounds like she wants attention. I would stick to your guns if thats what you want, unless your other BM’s have concerns as well.
Post # 5
I second brady3537 – sounds like she wants attention, unless the other BMs have issues with it I’d just tell her to suck it up (and if she’s not yet married let her know she can have her revenge at her wedding)
Post # 6
@MrsH1010: NM, I decided to be nice. But let’s just say I COMPLETELY agree with you.
Post # 7
Amen, amen, amen! I also have a bridesmaid who vetoed the dress I chose, and she STILL hasn’t picked another one (wedding is in October). She had a long list of complaints, and no real suggestions for alternatives. So my new stance is this: if she picks something and gets it ordered/altered in time, she’ll be a bridesmaid; if not, she’ll be a regular guest.
I don’t understand why it’s so hard for bridesmaids to just suck it up and get the dress they’re asked to get; it goes with the territory! Why was I, as a first-time bridesmaid who never even attended a wedding before, able to handle purchasing a lavender abomination that looked beyond horrible and unflattering on me (and the other bridesmaids) without complaining to the bride or throwing a fit? Oh right, because that’s what bridesmaids do… or should do.
Post # 8
@FutureMrsSpinewiz: Hello date twin! Congrats. You know i don’t think we can win from losing. I originally picked a dress with my sister and decided that was the dress for everyone. It was figure flattering and 99 freakin bucks! Some BM’s waited so long to order their dresses the dress was discontinued! So we had to start again. Now all they have to do is pick a dress out of the 6 or 7 I suggested. Basically, same color, same fabirc, same length. That is all I ask. As a matter of fact they can do chiffon or silk because some dresses have both. Guess what…still no dresses. At this point they can rush order them if they need to. It is now out of my hands.
Post # 9
@brady3537 i just wanted to say that your date is on my birthday! congrats! it’s a great day!
Post # 10
@MrsH1010: WOW, what with MOH and BM, mine are giving me thE same grief. I though they were supposed to make things easier. I think if you talk to her and just explain to her that it’s your wedding and that you would wear whatever she selected for her special day, maybe she would understand.
I ended up allowing all my girls to select their own dress from Bill Levkoff in the same material and color. It was so stressful to try and please everyone. I guess I gave up.
Post # 11
eek! good luck! i’ve had a few talks with my girls about styles they are interested in, and my MOH (my sister) seemed to have the most to say. I hope she doens’t give me this much trouble!
Post # 12
I had this problem with a BM- the dress i picked (only $40!) was too “unflattering” made her size 4 body look “fat, like a beached whale” and the dress wasn’t “sexy enough or short enough”! She eventually went crazy, dropped out of my wedding, and stopped talking to me. Strangely the “unflattering” dress looks drop dead AMAZING on my size 8 sister AND my size 14 bestie! Some people aren’t happy with any kind of restriction. Tell her to suck it up and buy the dress or she can feel free to step down as a BM.
Post # 13
When I first saw this thread, I about laughed my head off–the title alone. I went through the same thing! I have 2 skinny bridesmaids and 3 not so much, plus a jr bridesmaid who falls under not so much. The Not So Muches complained about strapless, then fabric, then blahblahblah. I picked out a non-strapless dress (no easy trick) and they bitched about that. BTW–my 2 sisters were the worst! And one of them forgets about the teal moire taffeta nightmare I wore in her wedding…
Post # 14
Ha Ha Ha…The title is so funny..I can relate..