Just Curious…

posted 2 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Out of curiosity, I looked up the percentage of out-of-wedlock pregnancies in America today (after reading some celebrity gossip; it wasn’t related to this post). It’s 41%. I realize that out-of-wedlock doesn’t mean unintended, but there’s definitely a lot of babies being born untraditionally or not being born at all today. Meanwhile, access to contraception is much higher than it was decades ago. It’s interesting, isn’t it?

Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Rachel631:  1.3% sounds way, way low. For one of the Australian states I looked up the statistics and it was roughly 20% (5000 abortions, 20000 live births). These include failed pregnancies (i.e. baby has already died) but the vast majority (96% according to the most recent report in the link below) are not. I can’t imagine UK being too different from Australia.

Links here if curious: http://www.sahealth.sa.gov.au/wps/wcm/connect/public+content/sa+health+internet/about+us/health+statistics/pregnancy+outcome+statistics

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I can count at least 3-4 close friends/relatives who have had abortions. They were all I believe due to just plain old not being careful and also getting pregnant while on the pill.

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Rachel631:  Have you misread the statistics? Reading your link, it looks to me like 1.75% women aged 15-44 have an abortion in a given year, not 1.3% of pregnancies end in abortion.

It says 190,000 abortions in 2011. Given a population of about 60 million I’d expect a birth rate of about 750,000 a year, so that’s an abortion rate of around 20%. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

How on earth do you know if the people you know have had an abortion? That is something incredibly private. You have no idea what the actual rate is among your friends/peers.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Abortion, especially in the US is so taboo so I doubt your mates are going to tell you willy-nilly whether they have had one or not. I think the same goes for here in Australia. I don’t know anyone who has had an abortion, that’s not to say none of my friends has had one; they have just chosen to keep that part of their lives private.

Post # 8
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Busy bee

Believe it or not, abortion is not something that a lot of women openly talk about. I know of 4 women who have had abortions but I guarantee that number doesn’t come close to terminated pregnancies that have actually occured within my circle of friends and acquaintances. As long as there are still people out there who make it their job to infringe on womens rights, women aren’t going to be open about ending their unwanted pregnancies even though they have the freedom and right to do so. 

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I also imagine most don’t talk openly about it, since it’s pretty private and there is a huge amount of judgment.  I have 2 close friends (out of 5) who have had an abortion but I wouldn’t presume to know anything about friends/peers who I’m not as close to.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Rachel631:  I think that unfortunately some women use abortions as birth control. I have heard of some women having 5 or more abortions which as you can imagine really throws off the averages. I do also know of a few people in my close circle who had one. I guess it’s not really something people talk about but can’t say I’m surprised the numbers are that high. I do agree that it is likely that the person is being irresponsible since birth control is do easily available. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

My friend used to work at an abortion clinic and she said it was surprising the number of older women with children who had abortions. So while we might have a profile in our minds of who uses abortion, the fact is women of all ages and stages in life access abortion. And I really don’t think it’s talked about. I know of one woman who has had a termination. One person, and I’m 32! 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m in Canada and know quite a few friends and family members who’ve had one or more abortions. And I’m sure there are many more that I don’t know of. It is a very private decision.

I used to work downtown close to the main abortion clinic. Everyone knows its there because the protesters come out every Friday morning. I remember seeing a teenaged girl at the Mcdonald’s next door with what seemed to be her mother and a couple of friends (1 female and 1male). She was openly and loudly talking about the experience in a way that made me so sad and uncomfortable. I consider myself very open-minded but she was so tacky and bold, she almost seemed proud of herself. The group as a whole spoke very loudly and were all swearing alot. They seemed low-income and uneducated and I so badly wanted not to judge. It was so depressing but I remember thinking that as sad as it was, it was probably for the best. It relived me to know that she at least had the choice, poor girl. 

Abortion is one of the saddest things ever but also vitally needed. I’m glad that in Canada, all women have the choice.

 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Hanover Grande Ballroom

i know of quite a few women who have had abortions, i understand the reasoning but could never do it nyself.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

I’m in my late 20s, from the UK. My best friend had an abortion a few years ago (she was careless). I know of three other people who’ve had abortions, but I’m not close to them (friend’s sister; OH’s friend’s ex; ex’s friend’s ex(!)). None of my other close friends have had an abortion; no idea about acquaintances. 

Personally, I’ve never had a scare; but I’ve always been a) clued-up and b) very careful and responsible. IME ‘accidents’ are rarely due to a genuine contraception fail, but rather due to incorrect/imperfect usage. Of those I know who have had accidental/unplanned pregnancies (I can think of about a dozen on top of those who had the abortions; they all continued with their pregnancies), it has been because they have missed an injection/pill, vomited after taking the pill and not used a back-up/been using the withdrawal method/etc. So I do tend to be slightly sceptical about ‘accidents’, because those I know, myself included (sexually active for 12 years now) who do do things ‘by the book’ have never had a scare. 

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