@BrandNewBride: Unfortunately, I still have to put up with her somewhat. The person I’m talking about is one of my roommates. She moved in back in June and she is literally the worst roommate I’ve ever had.
She leaves the lights on in the hallway, living room and kitchen as well as the tv on in the living room. She doesn’t clean up after herself in the kitchen. She eats mine and my other roommate’s (let’s call her “Jo”) food. She uses our laundry detergent and fabric softeners.
Right after she moved in, she destroyed one of my pots that I use to cook spaghetti in. And of course, never offered to replace it.
She’ll try to mooch off us. She asked Jo for a ride once, promising to give her 20 bucks for gas money later. And guess what, Jo still hasn’t seen that money, even after Jo has asked her several times for that money back.
She’s asked to use mine or my boyfriend’s cell phone before. She gave it right back but she’s done this a few times that I’m starting to get irritated. Like you have a phone of your own, why do you keep borrowing ours?
She also asked to use my laptop once for school. I said yes. But I only said yes for that one time. But she apparently took it as permission to use my laptop WHENEVER she wanted. How do I know this? Because she tried to connect her iPhone to my iTunes on my laptop.
After I saw that, I took my laptop back into my bedroom where she can’t use it anymore.
Lately, I’ve started keeping some of my groceries in my bedroom as well as my laundry detergent and fabric softener. And the stuff I do leave in the fridge, I write “DO NOT EAT!” For example, when I brought home a pizza box as leftovers, I wrote on the top “DO NOT EAT!!! THERE ARE FOUR SLICES OF PIZZA LEFT SO I WILL KNOW IF YOU EAT ANY!!!”
I just dislike her so much. I mean, I never say “hate” because I think that’s a very strong word to use. But damned if I don’t hate her sometimes.
Last night, she came home at 5:00 am and turned the hallway light on. I know this because I was having trouble sleeping so I was still awake when she came on.
I finally fell asleep around 5:45 and the light was still on. I woke up again at 8:00 and the light was STILL ON!
This to me, is the straw that broke the camel’s back. I have fantasises of taking her food and hiding it. Or putting something nasty in my milk in order to teach her a lesson if she drinks my milk. Basically, I fantasize about getting back at her. But I know that is immature. Tempting…but also immature.
Instead of retaliating in that way, I think about confronting her. All day, I’ve been toying with sending her a very angry text message or confronting her in person. I’m afraid though that if I confront her in person, things will escalate too much.
My boyfriend also tells me to let it go and try not to let her bother me. He tells me I should be the bigger person and not sink to her level. But she makes me so angry!