Just cussed out the future sister in law…

posted 3 years ago in Family
  • poll: Invite her or avoid wasting the paper?
    Invite her : (46 votes)
    52 %
    Do not invite her : (5 votes)
    6 %
    See how you feel once you move : (27 votes)
    30 %
    I wish I could cuss out some of my own in-laws, good for you! : (11 votes)
    12 %
  • Post # 3
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    6964 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @bebelicious1:  you have a year to hopefully find a better way to deal with each other so I wouldn’t worry about the invitation now. 

    Post # 4
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    101 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @bebelicious1:  I think that, like it or not, she is a part of your future family and this was a mistake. Yes, you need to invite her, she is your fiance’s sister. She’s family. You also should probably be the bigger person and apologize for how you behaved. Is this really someone you want to make an enemy of for the rest of your life? Not to mention what a difficult position you’ve probably put your FI in. 

    Post # 5
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    1184 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    @JennaJay13:  +1.

    I wouldn’t have “called her everything in the book” regardless of what she did because I wouldn’t want my husband in that situation.  I’m sorry it’s been difficult to live with her, but it was a choice everyone made.  

    If someone cussed me out, I’d probably be upset too, so I’m not sure why it’s shocking she’d be crying to those closest to her. 

    Post # 6
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    2164 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    If your date is right, you guys have plenty of time to let things cool off. I would invite her even if you still hate her…you will be family after all, whether you like her or not. (Inviting her doesn’t mean you have to hang out with her.)

    Post # 7
    Member
    2052 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @bebelicious1:  I’m going with invite her.  Please don’t hate me for saying this-but it sounds like you two are fighting like REAL sisters.  I’m sure that’s not what you want to hear right now.  You guys are living together, always together, I mean…..it’s probably becoming too much for everyone and it’s good to hear that you only have a few more months of living together.

    Have you completely axed her from being a BM?  Are you sure you want to go that route?  Maybe wait a couple of days and see if you feel the same thing…idk.  It does sound like she has made some poor choices and that’s not YOUR fault, but maybe she’s in need of support.  

    If you read to many ‘invite her’ comments and just can’t do it, then don’t, it’s your wedding.  I just worry you may look back with regret one day if she is not there.

    Post # 8
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    4223 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I think you should both take some time to simmer down, then make your peace with each other. It’s very hard for adults to live together sometimes. I could understand the frustration building and things reaching a breaking point,really. That being said cussing each other out and having a pile of animosity towards each other is not going to be beneficial for anyone. It sounds like your fiance has been trying to stick handle the situation and I’m sure he doesn’t want to be taking sides. I do think you owe her an apology though, for the name calling and losing your temper. 

    Post # 9
    Member
    895 posts
    Busy bee

    @bebelicious1:  I would leave the decision to your fiance about inviting them but good for you for cussing her out. I wish I was so brave to call out my FSIL!

    Post # 10
    Member
    460 posts
    Helper bee

    I will go against the grain here and say that sometimes, people – including family – need to be put in their place, and you probably just reached your boiling point and let her have a long overdue tongue lashing that she needed to put her back in her britches And remind her that we don’t live in England and therefore we do NOT have nor need a Queen ruling us. 

    Good on you for speaking your mind. 

    As for the invite, let things simmer a bit, see if she comes to her senses and apologizes for her behavior leading up to this incident, and decide then. If she still attempts to wear the crown, she can sit your wedding out. No one needs that kind of drama in their lives. People need to remember that their behavior and actions have consequences, and just because you share DNA doesn’t get you a “get out of bitch jail for life” pass.

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