(Closed) Just don’t feel happy anymore…not sure why

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1249 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

Well, it could be depression, or you could just need life changes.  I know for me, when I’m disatisfied, I try and change things to where I’m content.  Maybe planning a couple vacations would help.

Also, do you WANT a baby, or do you just feel like you should have one?  I know lots of people that aren’t having babies until past 35.  Maybe talk to you Fiance and get a time table for when you will TTC.  🙂

Post # 5
66 posts
Worker bee

I’m sorry that you feel this way. Have you considered talking to someone about how you’re feeling? You said that you have a fiance who loves you, how do you feel about him? Have you talked to him about it?

What was your life like when you were feeling happier and not “down”?

Lots of questions, I know! haha.

Post # 6
3626 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Well wanting to travel more is an easy thing to fix! Even if it’s just 2 hours away one weekend, it would be nice to have the occassional change of scenery.

Maybe you could consider volunteering, if you derive satisfaction from that. I did it recently, and some experiences are better than others, but at least you know you’re helping others.

Regarding having a baby, you can wait a few more years, and see if you change your mind about wanting one. In 15 years, you’ll be 47, and my aunt had her first child at that age! It’s definitely not the norm, but whatever works for you.

Btw, when I see girls my age with kids on Facebook, I feel left behind, and I’m only 23. So it’s not weird at all!

ETA – Oh maybe you can volunteer with kids! It could give you a better idea if/when you want them.

Post # 7
7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I have no advice about the baby, cuz we aren’t having kids, but I feel you on the rest. Do you guys have silmilar days off? Could you possibly do a day trip somewhere? We like to get in the car, take some snacks, and just drive (of course, not near as much now that gas is what it is). We take the camera, and usually don’t cost more than the gas in the car, and the snacks and drinks we through in the cooler. 

I also rarely suggest counseling, but it might be a good fit for you. At least talking to a professional, letting them know your feelings, and getting it all out can help you feel better. They can also give advice, and just help you find your path. 

Post # 10
842 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

It sounds like you’re experiencing depression.  From what I know of depression there’s two types – Situational, where you’re depressed over a certain thing (like me with my breakup) or Generalized, where you’re generally depressed for no reason.  It sounds like you might have some general depression.

I think it could help to talk to a therapist and see if you could try a mild anti-depressant.  Also, when I was depressed my BC made it a LOT worse.  Now that I’m not depressed it doesn’t have any effect, but when I was I felt near suicidal and as soon as I stopped taking it I felt somewhat better.  You might want to try stopping it for a bit to see if that helps, or maybe try different types if you must be on one.

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