Post # 1
So I just don’t know what to do anymore and I’m hoping maybe I can get some advice here. First off, I got engaged last Christmas so already almost a year ago and we have not set a date yet and have done NOTHING about wedding planning. Everytime I bring it up he says he wants to wait till he’s finished with school but yet he keeps taking these course breaks…we both still live with our parents and are planning on getting our own place once he graduates and finds a new job but I’m sick of waiting and wish we could get started on our future. The other problem is that he never wants to do anything. And I mean anything…I suggest we go out and do things all the time such as going to a haunted house or pumpkin farm for Halloween foexample but he never wants to. And he never wants to go out for dinner or on a date (money is NOT an issue here). All we do when we spend time together is sit in his basement and watch TV or movies. I just don’t know what to do anymore. I want to go out and do things, I want to plan out future but it just seems like he doesn’t want to anymore :/ what the hell should I do???
Post # 3
Have you asked him why he doesn’t like to go out and do things? Has he always been like that? That would really bother me. If he has always been like this, I think you just have to decide if this is what you want in a husband. If his mood has changed, have a talk with him about why he’s lost interest in going out.
Post # 4
Being unmotivated, not wanting to do things, and not wanting to plan a future sound like symptoms of depression to me. Have you tried talking to him about how he’s been feeling lately, and why he doesn’t want to do things?
Post # 5
Some people are more anti social and introverted than others, I think you should reevaluate your relationship because as age creeps up and kids come along its going to get a lot worse and more difficult to plan date nights.
If he can’t do it now what’s he going to be like in 10 years?
Post # 6
@Eckle: +1 – I thought this could be a possibility too.
Is he way different than he used to be? How long has this been going on? If it’s a sudden change then maybe it’s just due to stress, but if he seems lethargic and sad as well then maybe it could be something more serious.
Maybe he’s just stuck in a rut, though. I know how school can do that. Maybe he’s worried about what the future holds job-wise.