Post # 1
hey everyone i have officially joined the TTC group after gettig married nearly 4 months ago. My husband and myself where very relaxed about the whole thing to be honest i started my prenatal vitamins like 3 months before the wedding and was off birth control for approx a year due to other issues with it. We stopped using protection approx 2 months before the wedding and found out i was pregnant early 2 months after the wedding however very very early i think i was like 3.5 weeks when i found out. I only told family. I then started to bleed in work and was told by my GP i was having a miscarriage over the phone, to go home and rest and to do a pregnancy test in a week and if still positive then to ring him back. I did as i was told however my mother was not happy with this (Love my mum) and wanted me to have a scan which i did which showed sac was still intact everything ok as per the midwife but that the bleeding not a good sign. Over the next 3-4 weeks i had scans upon scan however after alot of worring and crying it eventually ended with a stalled pregnancy at 7.2 weeks. i had an evacuation of the womb as mentally and physically i think i had enough and medical management I.E tablets would be too traumatic for me. Now 2 weeks after the ‘procedure’ i feel empty. kinda lost. sad. traumatised. and frustrated. I would dearly love to have a baby. I have such a good family support and my husband is great (well most of the time) and i know they are greiving to a certain extent too. i also have a best friend who found out she was pregnant after a year of trying only to miscarry at 5 weeks. We are great support for each other. I was told but the hospital to wait untill i have a natural period however i am scared this will not be for a long time as i have irregular periods and may not have one for a couple of months at a time.
thank you all for whoever read all of that but my question is
how long should i wait?? (we are currently using protection)
Post # 3
@trinity_542: I would listen to your doctors and wait until after your next period. The last thing you want is to have an insufficient lining in your uterus, and for that to cause a second MC!
I’m so, so sorry for your loss, though.
Post # 4
@BrandNewBride: yeah i suppose yr right also my husband just wont untill my next period anyway as the doctor told him too lol just very frustrating!!!
Post # 5
I had a miscarriage earlier this year. I was also told to wait, but didn’t want to. My husband insisted that we listen to the dr and made the point that if we didn’t listen and I had another miscarriage I would always wonder if it was because we didn’t wait. It was difficult, but in the end I knew he was right. So sorry this happened to you. Fx that you get a period sooner rather than later and can start trying again.
Post # 6
I just had a miscarriage in June And I was told I could start trying right away. But I didn’t need to have a d and c. i was 7w4d and I was told my body treated it like a late period. The lining of the uterus is shed every month anyway. My sister in law announced her pregnancy ten Days after i miscarrried and is now at 14 weeks. . We tried the first month but it didn’t ens up happening
I thought that getting pregnant right w away would help me feel better but my husband and I both found that the grieving process has taken a lot longer than we thought. I am just now starting to fee ready to be pregnant again. my advice is to wait simply to give yourself time to heal. both physically and emotionally.
Post # 7
Sorry for your loss and sending prayers and hugs your way.
Post # 8
@nataliegrace90: I completely agree. At first the initial reaction is to start trying right away to take away the sadness but I think waiting (a little bit) is great advice. The physical and emotional roller coaster of a MC really puts things in perspective. IMO the healing time is important.
@trinity_542: I’m so sorry for your loss. I can relate to what you’re going through. It’s not easy what so ever. I MC last weekend and my emotions are all over the place.
My dr said to wait at least 1 to 2 cycles before trying again. He said the risk of MC is higher if it’s done immediately after … even though my brother and SIL MC and got pregnant immediately after and their baby is doing just fine … I guess they just say that as a precaution. If you do feel strongly about getting pregnant right away I’d say wait at least 1 cycle and don’t forget to continue to take your prenatals (very important).
In my case my DH and I decided not to try right away. We have some serious healing to do. This experience had us so excited to be parents … picked out the crib … envisioned the babies room … mentally preparing ourselves for late night feedings and diaper changes … all to just be taken away from us. We need time, I don’t think getting pregnant right away would help. Everybody is different though.
Good luck and I hope you get your BFP really soon!