Just feeling blah and run down and wedding planning sucks

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 5
954 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Creiddylad:  I’m a grad student too that is doing a thesis route. Once you start working on your thesis, you can work on your own time. Like 7am, noon or midnight. Whenever you work best. This fits into wedding planning well, because you can take the time to do it if you need to. Take an afternoon off and get a few things on your checklist done. One afternoon of not writing will not be the end of the world. Trust me, I’ve taken a few of them!

As for being grumpy on your FI’s birthday, I can relate too. I can be a realy grumpy butt if I want to be. And then I feel incredibly guilty about it for days. So I say I’m sorry a million times and eventually start to feel better. Give it time.

Post # 6
121 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Creiddylad:  wedding planning pisses me off too. my budget is about close to yours, if not right under. it sucks! i live in atlanta where EVERYTHING costs out the roof. it’s dumb. 

Post # 7
88 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@Creiddylad:  I’m so sorry to hear that. That is similar to what I was going through. My FI and I both got engaged, moved out, and got new jobs. Things were a bit hectic for us too, so my advice would just be to try and find time to relax and enjoy one another. I despized the wedding process, but just take it day by day. You still have a lot of time. May 2015 will come quickly, but you still have time to plan and get other things done too! Just take a deep breath!

Post # 9
1202 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Your wedding is May 2015??? Every time you feel overwhelmed, take a break, you have plenty of time!  Try to not put too much pressure on yourself, and you can always assign your FI some tasks…



Post # 10
564 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

When I first started looking into venues I was shocked at how expensive our local area is. Hotels sometimes have good deals, and same with some restaurants. Maybe ask at every possiable location you can find – restaurants, hotels, local B&B’s…

I asked a few restaurants and they where happy to have the wedding at their location, some did not alow a dance floor though.

I had my heart set on this location, oh it was beautiful, victorian ballroom, large mirrors and chandeliers. But the staff where rude and unhelpful, and we snuck a peak at their kitchens and they where filthy!!

The venue we now have booked might not look the best, but the staff are friendly and happy to let us do pretty much anything we want, apart for nail anything on the walls. They also have an amazing park area across the road – rose gardens, trees that are 100yrs old, fountains and sculptures.

Think outside the box, and you never know what you might find.


Post # 11
130 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Creiddylad:  I hear ya. Our budget is exactly the same. As far as venue: we’re only having a reception, which will be held at a local American Legion. Since FI is a veteran, it was only $250 to rent out a room that has a capacity of 200 people. For non vets, it’s $350 (still pretty darn cheap). For cake, we’re having sheet cake from Coburn’s, which is super delicious! For save the dates and invitations, we’ve used groupons for Vistaprint. You have options! 🙂

Post # 12
9949 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

You’re the one in Northern Vermont, right?  You lucky duck.  Let me come visit you this summer and I’ll help you!!!  


Don’t be discouraged.  When will you be done done with grad school?

Post # 13
560 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I enjoyed being engaged, but I did not enjoy the wedding process. Luckily for me, we had a pretty short engagement (6 months actually planning). All I can say is remember that you love your FI and that’s what it’s about and don’t listen to your hater mom/sister/friend/whoever means well but makes you feel WORSE about the situation and more stressed.

Regarding venues, we did cheap for our area by choosing a Sunday, in off-wedding season (December), and a outdoor ceremony/indoor reception at the same location. You just have to be positive, but realistic. I’m sure if you live in NYC or something you might be screwed either way, but we had a similar budget and while it definitely took some looking and not being crazy picky, you can do it! Good luck!

Post # 14
1272 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

It sounds like you and your FI just need to WE time….alone! No family stuff! As much as we love our families, when there is so much going on, it can make it difficult to focus on your recent engagement or anything personal. Try to set aside a weekend where you and your FI can just do a bunch of stuff together, even if you can’t get out of town for those 2-3 nights. Treat it as a way to make up for his birthday and a private engagement celebration for the two of you, but don’t make it all about wedding planning. I just started really diving into the wedding planning over the holidays and it was STRESSFUL, but I think that stress was just emerging because I had no time to process anything.

Post # 16
347 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Not sure if it helps, but we are looking for a low budget, and are actually going to most likely go for either my old school or his old school.

In the UK, to hire the church costs about £450 for the wedding ceremony.

We would be hiring his school chapel at the above cost, and a beautiful hall which is part of the school (old, high ceilings etc. really lovely!) which is going to cost us £500 for hire of the venue, tables and chairs, cleaning before and after, labour cost for set up the day before the wedding (so we get the venue effectively for 2 days!) and take down afterwards – which is a fantastic deal! So there are venues out there, just perhaps might have to be more non-traditional as a wedding venue.

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