Post # 1
I recently stumbled across a bunch of old pictures I’d saved of dresses I used to like. I guess I should start by saying I’m 30…the first time I’d ever looked online for wedding dresses was when I was…oh…19. At the time, I wasn’t engaged (just in a state of wishful thinking). About five years later, I actually WAS engaged (to a different guy….but thankfully we called that whole shenanigan off before the wedding took place!)…so the wishful online dress browsing started up again. Then just last year, I FINALLY tied the knot to “Mr. Right”…so I was on the dress hunt again.
So I’ve got folders of dresses I liked ten years ago, five years ago, and last year…. In short, there is a huge difference in each of those folders!!
Another thread got me thinking about what I used to say before I was engaged about what *my wedding* would be like. Time and lifestyle changes can really make a difference in our tastes, so I thought it might be fun to share some of our “once upon a time, I thought I wanted a dress like THIS” pictures.
10 years ago, every dress I picked out had to have sleeves (similar to this one):
Five years ago, I really REALLY wanted something that had a splash of color:
The dress I ended up getting married in was one I picked because of the lace:
Yes…sue me. I wore gloves. 😉 How outdated. And while I can still see the reasons I thought the dresses I liked before were pretty, I wouldn’t have worn them at my wedding last May because my tastes are just…different now, I guess. Has anyone else seen their tastes in dresses drastically evolve over the years? What were some of the first dresses you thought you’d get married in (five, ten, fifteen, twenty, etc. years ago…if you were even thinking about weddings before you got engaged)?
Disclaimer: I’m not saying that I think sleeves or color are outdated on all dresses now by any means. I’m just saying that the “must haves” I used to want in a dress have gone through some major changes! I’m all about wearing what you like at the current moment, as fashion trends change constantly and anything you pick will eventually be something that you can pinpoint from a certain time period. Hence the gloves, I liked them…so I wore them!!
Post # 3
I used to want to get married in a medieval/fantasy style dress when I was younger, but I ended up getting married in something pretty typical (strapless ballgown). I did wear a fur trimmed cloak that was a bit medieval/fantasy-ish!
Post # 4
@DeathByDesign: Oh I LOVE that cloak!!! So pretty! I think that is why I was going for dresses with the bell sleeves when I was younger (because I liked the medieval look and kind of the “Romeo and Juliet” w/ Leo DiCaprio & Claire Danes feel as well…) Beautiful pictures!!! 🙂
Post # 5
I used to think I was going to be bold and go with a pop of color (similar to the pic the OP posted)…. but then when reality set in I realized I wanted to go a more traditional route.
Post # 6
To be totally honest I never even thought about wedding dresses until FI proposed. I never reallt thought I would be getting married one day and FI changed my perspective on that one. 😀 So I chose the princessy type of dress with some poof and bling 😀
Post # 7
@mrs_pugetsound: Yeah I loved bell sleeves too!
Here is an example of a dress I probably would have chosen when I was a teenager lol:
Post # 8
I didn’t really care about weddings/wedding dresses when I was younger. I vaguely remember seeing a dress pattern from the 60s, with long sleeves and a high lace neck, that I wanted. Not so much anymore. Before I got engaged, I started looking at dresses, and I had a good idea of what I didn’t want. Since I got engaged and started coming on weddingbee (this is going to sound bad but it’s not, really!) those feelings of what I didn’t want were very much confirmed. I have found that I want something I haven’t seen anywhere else or on anyone else, something not typical.
Post # 9
I always loved the full skirt….Scarlet O’Hara full… The first dress I loved was on a box of chocolates and the woman was wearing a blue tafetta natural waist ball gown. I loved something along these lines:
The dress I ended up with was also a ball gown but after trying on REALLY full skirts I realized it’s just too unmanagable! So I got this one which had the lace at the bottom which I wanted, a sweatheart neckline and I added the lace top to give it that timeless look 🙂
Post # 10
Maybe I’ve just had wedding on the brain for far too long. ;P I guess the truth is, though I’d looked at dresses many times before, I never really read up about any of the fashion trends before I came to weddingbee (which was after I’d bought my dress). Even then, I didn’t pay the most attention to what was “in” and what was “out”. I would just see certain styles available and gravitate towards one or the other more (I had no idea what “pick-ups” and “keyhole backs” and “ruching” were until after I’d already bought my dress). The one thing that has always stuck with me through all stages though was the desire for a corset back (I think that might have something to do with the whole “renaissance” thing deathbydesign mentioned). 🙂
Post # 11
My taste hasn’t changed as far as style. I got exactly what I was thinking, except the material. I realized that satin is too freaking heavy and get wrinkled. I went with a softer material (similar to taffeta without the crunchy noise) instead.
Post # 12
Yes. When I was in my late teens I always thought my dress would be a simple satin strapless A-line. Best way I can describe it anyway. (like Alfred Angelo 1797NB)
Then oh about 5 years ago or so, I wanted an exuberant ballgown with a huge chapel length trail and a ton of detail. (like Kenneth Winston style 1451)
Now, I want something more simple. Probably lace or chiffon. Preferably with some sort of straps on it. 🙂
Post # 13
I love this thread! what a GREAT idea! 🙂
First, I know I already commented on your recap, but, @DeathByDesign: you are SO incredibly gorgeous and amazingly photogenic! And, as I’ve already told you, I LOVE that hooded cape!!!
Now for my gowns:
I was engaged WAAAY back in the early 1990s but broke that engagement and canceled that wedding. Below are cell phone pics of the ad showing the dress I purchased back then — a gorgeous tulle ballgown with reimbroidered Alencon lace with hand-sewn sequins and seed pearls (it’s not as big and puffy as it looks in the ad; the model is actually sitting down, and the dress is spread out in the pic.)
I STILL love this gown and would either like to have someone in my family wear it or sell it to get some of my investment back. I actually think it is timeless enough to be worn now. It may even be able to be made into a strapless gown.
Below is the gown I wore for my actual wedding in 2009:
However, subsequent to my wedding, I have seen a number of stunning gowns that I would have LOVED to have at least tried on to see if they would have looked good on me. There really are SO many gorgeous options available now! (Fortunately for my budget, I didn’t know about WB and SYTTD when I bought my dress in 2008! LOL)
Post # 14
@stargurl101: In love the lace you added!! So pretty!!
@Brielle: Both of your dresses were beautiful! I think it would work to make the first one into something more strapless or with an altered sleeve, then repurposing it for someone else’s wedding. 🙂 I had to agree on the whole “being thankful for not knowing about SYTTD or WB” thing before buying the dress. I think I would have spent MUCH more time obsessing over all the different options out there if I had!
@DeathByDesign: That looks very similar to something I would have picked, had I been married as a teenager!! LOL
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@deathbydesign I love your cloak! I’m a huge Belle from Disney fan and it reminds of of that movie.
In high school (not engaged or anything) I was leaning towards a slinky, satiny look. Possibly a vintage dress from the 30s-era. My confirmation dress was a vintage 30s lace dress (which I would totally have gotten married in 20 pounds ago), and my prom dress was long, tight and satiny. So something about like this:
Then as I started thinking about getting engaged, I was thinking full lace, still body-hugging:
And now I’m wearing a soft satin A-line. It is fitted in all right right places. I did take one layer of poof out so that it’s more flowy, and added a halter strap (one thing that was always consistent is that I did not want strapless).
Another thing that changed, not so much for what I’d wear, was just being less put-off by ginormous fluffy dresses. Now I see pretty ballgowns and think they are beautiful.