Post # 1
Just for fun… Which do you think is a better investment? Your ring
or your wedding?
My cousin and I had a conversation a few years back, and it just resurfaced to my memory… I wanted to know YOUR thoughts!
I said that I’d much rather have a really nice engagement ring that Im going to wear for the rest of my life and a really tiny wedding… my cousin said that she’d rather have a big beautiful wedding that she could remember for the rest of her life, and wear a simple band or understated ring…
So if you were alloted a chunk of money, and it had to go to only one thing (ring or wedding), which would it be?
Post # 3
Ring!!!! You And everyone else will remember it a Lot longer!
Post # 4
Wedding–including the best photographer money can buy. Those memories are far more important to me than any ring on my finger. You can never recreate those photos or memories. A ring is just that, a ring. And why would I choose to put a piece of jewelry on my finger when I could choose something that I could share with the most important person in my life.
Post # 5
I say wedding- it only happens once (hopefully.) You can’t ‘upgrade’ it or recreate it later.
Rings can be lost, stolen, damaged… but not a wedding.
Post # 6
WEDDING!! its one night But one night you Only have ONCE! you can always upgrade your ring with the years.. =)
Post # 7
Um, wedding. Experiences are so much better than material things.
Post # 8
Considering I tried to convince DH to elope I vote for ring.
Post # 9
HONEYMOON! …oh, wait, that’s not an option. I totally agree with peachacid that experiences are more important (to me) than material things but in this case, considering my dream wedding is an elopement, I chose dream ring. Not that my dream ring is particularly expensive either. 😀
Seriously, though, if it were an option, I would pick dream honeymoon over dream ring OR dream wedding. Travel is the one area in my life where I have expensive taste.
Post # 10
My immediate reaction was ring! because it is more then just a piece of jewellery to me, but then I thought about how a wedding will only happen once and the ring can be upgraded in the future.
I think both are important, but the memories that we would have, our guests would have, the photos and the videos that we would have are much more precious to me – I only have one opportunity, one moment to capture all of that – I have a lifetime to own the perfect ring.
Post # 11
@Mara09: I agree, I choose dream honeymoon too!
I’m not huge into big elaborate weddings so, as it is, we’re going with a smaller, intimate DW with just the people we’re closest to. Because of that, I pick ring. I DON’T want to upgrade my ring, exchange it, change it, trade it in…I want to wear the ring my SO proposed with forever. We went into ring shopping with that mentality “Get what you really want now, even if it’s more expensive because it’s better than getting a cheap one now & upgrading.” So yea, out of wedding & ring, I choose ring. But if you added the honeymoon option, I would 100% choose honeymoon.
Post # 12
I would be perfectly happy eloping or getting hitched at the courthouse (originally I wanted to do one of those things even, lol). I would NOT be perfectly happy wearing any ring other than the one I have! I’d rather put the money in an object I look at every day than in memories that will fade.
Post # 13
To each their own.. Everyone has a preference.
I don’t think one is more meaningful than the other.. Both wedding receptions and rings are materialistic things and neither is needed to ensure a long, happy, and healthy marriage.
So to those of you saying that rings are just a piece of jewelry, one can argue that a wedding is simply just a party used to impress others. A marriage in itself is just a union between 2 people who love each other. Thats why I said the question was just for fun.
I personally would rather have an extravagant ring over an extravagant wedding solely because every wedding I’ve been to, no matter how big or small, there was always a guest that complained about SOMETHING. Whether it be the food, the brides dress, and line for drinks at the cocktail hour, etc… I’d rather have a beautiful ring that is a gift from my DH, himself, that signifies our union, than a party where I have to pay for other people to attend, so that they can compare it to the next wedding they go to, behind my back. But that’s just me. Certain things are more important to others… I love weddings… They’re fun and they’re beautiful. But in most cases, they’re stressful- and I don’t handle stress too well, which is why I picked ring over wedding :]
Post # 14
I think the ring. The wedding is just a big party and the ring will last for years to come.
Post # 15
tough because the ring is forever and the wedding is one day (or in my dreams- a weekend!!) but w the wedding the awesomeness is shared among everyone you love. and i can pretty much afford the ‘ring of my dreams’ (even tho i drool over rings like heidi klum’s like anybody else, I will be so happy with something waaayyy cheaper), but a crazy dream wedding i think is more unattainable and a bigger difference between reality and fantasy, so i’d want to cash in on that! haha!
ETA: but at the same time, that ring IS every day and forever………………. hahhaha very hard to choose!!!!!!!
Post # 16
I would rather have the ring. Normally I choose experience over material, but in this case, I wouldn’t want a big wedding! (With or without said dream ring.)