- 3 years ago
- Wedding: November 2014 - Mauritius
So here is a little background, most of my best friends are the girlfriends/FIs/wives of my FI’s friends, as I relocated to be with him and didn’t have any close friends. I have heard stories over the years of the men cheating on their girlfriends and various rumours but have tended to keep my nose out a) because it’s not really any of my business and b) it may just be a rumour, why cause upset about something I know actually know about.
One of the girls in particular I got on with right away, FI at the time when we started dating was living with his best friend and she moved in as well so when I used to stay at weekends she would be there so bonded before I even met the other couples. FI moved out to live with me 2 years ago but we still speak and see each other regularly, go out in groups/couples, do dinner parties and girls nights out etc. She had been acting a little funny for a while, just off-ish but couldn’t put my finger on it. She just got offered an amazingd, high powered job which she starts soon so thought it may just be the stress of this.
In any case, she confessed to me this week that she hadn’t been having sex with her partner in quite some time, and when she did it was ‘5 mins no-thrill missionary in bed, in the dark’ as she discribed. So she went on a casual sex site initially just for some flirty fun, however she took that extra step. I know she loves her long term partner very much, they get on so well, just bought a house together and she has no intention whatsoever of leaving him, it’s just the sex. She enjoyed her NSA encounter however doesn’t know what to do so has come to me for advice. I have NO IDEA what I’m meant to tell her?? I don’t want to get mad at her or tell her she is an aweful person but I can’t agree with what she did either, now she doesn’t know if to tell her partner and risk loosing it all, whether to keep quite and not do it again or if she should keep quite, and continue to do it! I know what most people are thinking by this point, stop and/or tell him however she was so excited by her incounter she doesn’t know if she can resist.
What am I meant to do/say?? She also asked me not to tell FI as he would for sure tell her partner (his best friend) but I tell FI everything and don’t know how to feel about this. I don’t want to drop her in it, and ruin her relationship because I told FI but I also don’t want to keep something this big from him, he’s usually the person I ask for advice even on girl things! Help?!