Just found out FI may need lung surgery

posted 2 years ago in Wellness
Post # 2
564 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’m sending good vibes your way. 

Post # 3
9204 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

I am so sorry, hopefully they do what they can to fix this, sending thoughts your way.

Post # 4
643 posts
Busy bee

Janelle123: I’m so sorry! Based on your description and the doctor’s initial comment, it certainly sounds like removing the cysts would make the most sense to avoid future problem. However, I’m not a doctor so perhaps the reason they changed their minds makes more sense. 

<div class=”markedForCaretMarkerRemoval” dir=”auto” style=”color: #262626; font-family: Calibri, ‘Slate Pro’, sans-serif; font-size: medium;”>My suggestion is to ask as many questions as you need to. Make sure you feel comfortable with the treatment plan and get a second opinion if you feel the need to. Doctors aren’t always right – we’re all human and make the wrong call sometimes. </div>

I wish your partner the best!‎

Post # 5
4878 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I’m terribly sorry that you & FI are going through this.  It sounds like you may want to have another talk with his doctor to find out why they don’t plan to remove the cysts.

Gentle cyber hugs from SoCal.



Post # 6
4762 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Good luck!! Lung surgery is an invasive procedure with risks, so I see why they would want to avoid it. Either way, I’m sure he will be ok!!

Post # 7
537 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Janelle123:  I’m so sorry you’re going through this!! With a pneumothorax, that 20% chance of it happening again is probably unrelated to the cysts. Once you have a pneumothorax, you’re already at an increased risk of reccurence. Getting rid of the cysts won’t get rid of the risk (it may lessen the risk, but honestly I am not sure how removing the cysts would affect the chance of reccurence). It’s a scary thing to go through, I’ve watched patients and a close friend go through it. I hope everything works out well!

Post # 8
42135 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Janelle123:  I think it sounds like they are taking a conservative approach and that’s usually a good  thing. Many people get a pneumothorax (collapsed lung) repeatedly. Although it can be painful, it’s fairly straightforward to treat. It can however cause complications like a tension pneumo such as your FI experienced. Fortunately he was in the ER when that happened.

Any surgery carries a risk and his doctors seem to have decided that for the time being, the risks of any surgery to remove the cysts are higher thsn the risk of doing nothing and seeing what happens. Lung surgery is major surgery. He may require it in the future and he may not.

Here’s hope for good healing.

Post # 9
810 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: Either Philadelphia City Hall or a small chapel.

Praying for yous. And FH is defintiely stubborn when it comes to his health. I’ve realized many are looking back on exes and guy friends. I don’t understand…

I’m not sure how long it has been going on before we met in 2012, but, I did notice he always had stomach issues. Mostly issues with pain/aches. He does have a big appetite and overdid it sometime, but, I began to realize even normal amounts of food  and also certain alcohols triggered them.  He said he had an ulcer and issues with reflux, but, Tums & Prilosec helped. He stayed in bed sometimes all day and it seemed like he was asking me atleast once a week to rub his stomach, so I knew otherwise not always. But,he still insisted that nothing was serious.

That same year around August he started these fainting spells (wasn’t there for atleast 1 of them). I had to force him to go to the hospital by calling an ambulance before he regained conciousness. They didn’t do anything except for scans, x-rays, urine analysis, monitoring his vitals, giving him fluids. They thought it may be neurological. Discharged him with dehydration and also intoxication because he was drinking.  

It didn’t happen again that I was aware of anyway, but, I did notice his stomach issues continuing. In the wintertime, he calls me up while I was home while he was out on errands & other things and says he went to the doctors and he’s had an ulcer that’s been bleeding for a while and needs to set up an appointment for chest x-rays and start an evaluation for surgery. Everything that seemed unrelated made sense. He went to donate blood early in our relationship and was told he was anemic and started taking iron, but, it didn’t seem to help much which also made the fainting make sense. I also found out he was hiding episodes of puking, sometimes with blood because he didn’t want to worry me. 

He went to prison before he got the surgery and occasionally had issues sometimes while behind bars, but, it seemed like they did improve. Atleast by what he told me. He came home this October that just passed. This Spring, I realized it was flaring up again. And the past few weeks, I got on him about going to the doctors, ER, something. First, he made an excuse about insurance (he got laid off from a job before the benefits came on). That’s why there’s sliding scale and community health centers! Then, he was more worried about getting his car fixed. There’s some kind of short and it won’t start. That can be repaired & replaced anytime; HE CAN’T. Since the beginning of last month, he’ll just suddenly be like,”I feek sick…” and seconds later bent over. It’s happened atleast 4 times in my presence. We aren’t living together due to roommate issues that caused us to move back to our parents’ homes so I don’t know the extent. It wasn’t until it was becoming more like bloody bile and seemed worse that he’s saying he’ll go to the hospital. I’m coming home from my babysitting gig (staying atleast 3-5 days a week in a neighborhood 20 minutes away by car to save on transportation costs) and if he still is at home, am dragging his ass.  He is 31 and should be perfectly healthy…this is serious! The closest ER is like a 5 minute walk. No excuses. 

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