Just found out FIs Dad has Cancer…

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I’m sorry about your bad news. I wish you strength to deal with this and support your FI. I have known a few people with small cell lung cancer, and the outcomes have not been good. I can say that my grandfather lived 15 years after a lung cancer diagnosis, but I’m not sure what kind it was. It was before my time.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee

I’m so sorry. I don’t have any experience of anything like this but just wanted to send my best wishes to you all

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015 - Industrial/Modern

I lost my dad to pancreatic cancer two years ago. I am right there with you on hating cancer. My former husbands aunt was diagnosed with stage 3 small cell carcinoma. She fought it hard and lived for 3 years after her diagnosis. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I’ll pray for both your loved ones. I am afraid I have no positive cancer stories to share. My mom just got diagnosed with Stage III this spring, but I am hopeful for her. I know how terrifying it feels when your parent gets this diagnosis, but I know that the support of family makes all the difference for them. I hate cancer, too! 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014 - 11/15/14-Vineyard

oliviajuice:  I’m so sorry. Just be there for him if he wants to talk and be understanding when he doesn’t. Spend as much time as you can with his dad. 

I know my dad was just diagnosed Stage 4 kidney cancer the last week of May (multiple tumors, one being over 5″) and I’ve been a mess. He has many scattered lymph nodes in the upper abdomen so they think he has tumors attached to his lungs as well. He goes in for the upper CTscan this week with surgery within the next couple weeks to take out the one kidney and whatever else they can. It’s been really hard and I know my FI has been pretty silent. When I get down he just holds me and that’s really all I could ask. It’s been emotional, as I can’t even fathom having him now and not in 4 months when I get married. I’m holding out for the best and enjoying every moment in the present. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Cape May

I am so hopeful your future FIL can battle that dreadful disease as well as your mom. I just lost my aunt to ovarian cancer a few weeks ago and my biggest regret was not being able to say goodbye. Spend as much time with your family as you can- it’s those memories that you will hold onto later.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

oliviajuice:  I’m so sorry… I lost my grandmaother to cancer when I was 19… She fought it for nearly 4 years. She had breast cancer in her late 20s/early 30s and beat it unfortunately when it came back, it had spread into her bones before they caught it… She fought hard but refused chemo, she knew it would only prolong her life not save it and she refused to go back there… She went for 2 sessions and decided she wouldn’t go back… So I’ll join you on hating cancer…

Please talk to someone if you guys need to, I was devastated dealing with one family member with it, I don’t know how you are coping right now… I will keep him and you guys in my thoughts and prayers…

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - The Heathman Lodge (Vancouver)

Not what you want to hear, but my dad has stage IV lung cancer, and although he will reach his estimated survival time, his health is decling quickly as we get closer to the wedding.

Post # 12
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Busy bee

Just saw your post! My mon doesnt have lung cancer but has pancreatic cancer, and is bad prognosis as well! I know how you feel, how being engaged, planning a wedding, yet maybe being afraid to be happy because of your father-in-law? Just cherish the time you have with him and maybe include him if possible in some of the planning. 

We may move up the wedding and if its a dire diagnosis, maybe consider that or have an alertante small ceremony with just family and then your regular wedding. Its definitly hard but be as close as you can to your family right now, you truly realize in times like this, how important family is.

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper

So sorry.  Sending well wishes and prayers to all on this thread.  I hate cancer too.  

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - The Heathman Lodge (Vancouver)

oliviajuice:  Just curious how everything worked out?

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