Post # 1
We are having a destination wedding and we knew this might be a possibility with some important people in our lives. To top it off, my future brother in law is in the military. We found out last night that he has to do some training right during the time of our wedding and can’t get any time off. So he’s likely not able to come to the wedding. I am SO sad for my fiance, and especially for my future mother in law. I know it’s gonna devastate her not to have all her children at her son’s wedding. It’s just so sad… but I guess that’s military and I guess that’s destination weddings : (
Just wanted to vent…
Post # 3
Can you change the date or is it too late for that? Not having one of our close, immediate family members able to attend the wedding would absolutely be a deal breaker for us. It’s the people that surround us that are the most important to us on the big day and I would not plan a wedding where those closest to us could not attend
Post # 4
Just remember there are always other ways to include him! My FI (military) was skyped into his sisters wedding to make a toast and recorded a video for our nephew’s first birthday. It isn’t the same but it helps lift that feeling of ‘missing them’ that can sometimes happen. Sorry this is happening during such a special time in your lives!
Post # 5
very common with military families. 🙁 sorry to hear that. Is there some way to incorperate him into it?
Post # 6
@ash064: it is much too late for that. and i would generally agree, he is really important to us! but there is just no way of knowing when he is or is not available. no matter what, we knew there was a strong possibility this might happen… it’s the nature of his career!
@lovesweetlove: that was the first thing i said… we’ll skype you in!!! we definitely want to have a picture of him in uniform at the wedding somewhere… (any suggestions on how to make it clear he’s just away and not dead :/)
@SparkleBee11: i’m marrying into a military family and have never experienced this before. my fiance always said “brother might not be able to come” and i was kinda like no wayyyy he’ll be there. apparently not the case : ( but ya we will definitely look into making sure everyone knows how special he is to us at the wedding!
All suggestions are welcome!
Post # 7
My cousin got married last year and her brother was unable to come as he got deployed right before her wedding. It is super common. They filmed everything for him and they watched it when he got back. Also, he recorded something for her to watch that day – I don’t know what it was as I didn’t see it but I thought that was so sweet!
Post # 8
@CaroBee: love that. i might ask him to record something for his brother. that’s a good idea!