Just found out, my dad has Stage 4 Cancer, getting married in November

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

sharksgrl99:  I don’t have any knowledge on the cancer but I wanted to tell you how sorry I am this is happening and that I’ll say a prayer for you and your family, especially your dad.

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

 

sharksgrl99:  Im so sorry to hear this news. It’s never easy to hear. My family has taken many hits from cancer in the last 2 years or so. It’s such an evil thing. But I would try and focus on getting a really clear plan in place for him. It’s never too late to try and fight this with him. My godmother was diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer which also had spread to her lymph nodes. she lived for more than 2 years and it was only in her last couple months that she started to see a major decline in her quality of life. It’s completely normal and ok to feel confused, upset, hurt and even a little selfish. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Post # 4
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Helper bee

I’m so sorry, I will say a prayer for your dad also, that is my worst nightmare and I keep thinking about my parents falling ill as neither of them keep great & my dad has had skin cancer which nobody talks about anymore. Best wishes to you and your family and I hope you have an amazing wedding day with all of them.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

sharksgrl99:  I’m so so sorry. I lost my dad to cancer when I was 17. I know when he was sick I was sad that he wasn’t going to be there for some of the important parts of my life including my wedding. Now that its coming I wish everyday that he was going to be there to walk me down the aisle and to have a dance with. If I was in your situation I would probably get married immediately to make sure he would be there. I actually know someone who just moved their wedding up by a year because their dad isn’t well. Big hugs.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

 

sharksgrl99:  My godmother had all of the above. They did surgery to remove one lump they found in the very beginning. They found out a few months later it had spread but it had spread from another previously undetected lump. She had chemo and radiation and she handled it really well considering she also had severe diabetes. I don’t know the specifics of her diabetes but she had it her whole life and it affected her eye sight and everything. She did really great. I think it would be best to see what these doctors say in regards to a possible treatment plan and then also get a second opinion just to confirm everything. We did that with my godmother and the second doctor was able to offer a better plan that we now credit for the extended amount of time she had. She lived a year and had cancer in so many parts of her body. And she was still able to function on her own and live a decent life for quite a while. Keep praying and ask a lot of questions when you are at the doctors if you go with him at all. I’m sure you know all of this already but it can’t hurt to suggest it anyway.

 

Put it this way, a year before my god mother died she completed the avon two day walk. She was in great spirits and handled the walk just fine. That was a year more than they had given her to live from the time she was originally diagnosed. Keep staying as positive as possible.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Disney

I am sorry to hear this. Could you move the wedding up? Or would you be willing to do an early civil ceremony in his presence if necessary?

 

 

 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

My grandmother was almost 70 when she was diagnosed w/ colon cancer that had spread to her liver.  They only gave her a 10% chance of living past a few months.  She had surgery, chemo treatment, and outside of the first 6 months of chemo when she was really bad sick, she lived for over 3 more years….healthy as a horse, and running around like the roadrunner.

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Post # 10
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103 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I am so sorry about your father, I hope the meetings with the doctors and surgeons are encouraging and he can begin treatments right away.  I feel for you and can relate with what you are going through – FI and I are also engaged to marry in November and FI’s mother was diagnosed with aggressive stage 4 stomach cancer last month.  It has definitely not been easy and will only get harder.  Thinking of you and your family.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

sharksgrl99:  i am so so sorry you are going through this.

i don’t do well with consoling people but i give good straight forward advice. being sad is expected. it’s apart of life!

tell your kids in a direct way. they are 17 and 20, not 2 and 4. they will understand. they will feel sad too but remind them that their grandfather is still here and they should try to make a few more memories with him before his body departs this earth. also explain that he will always be there with them in their hearts and in their minds.

good luck with finding all of the information you need! take it one day at a time and enjoy talking to your dad and spending time with him as much as possible! your love is what he needs right now.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Backyard

I am so very sorry. Thinking of you.

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