Post # 1
Several months ago the FI and I chose our wedding invitations. My mom, who is a BIG paper person, loves them too. It wasn’t until today when I went to order that I realized there are no inner envelopes available for what we’ve chosen. Sending an invitation addresses to “Ms. Mary Smith and Guest” on the envelope seems to take away the traditional feel and formality of the otherwise luxurious invitation.
We are having a formal evening wedding and I’m torn as to whether or not we should stick with what we have or pick something new. Our wedding is 5 1/2 months away so I need to come to a decision sooner than later.
Our colors are plum and champagne. If anyone out there is having a plum/victorian lilac wedding, you know that the “right” purple is hard to come by on an invitation.
Here is the link to the invitation:
Have any bees noticed a trend in eliminating inner envelopes from formal invitations? What did you decide to do?
Post # 3
I don’t think its a huge deal. I’ll be honest, we received the outer envelopes and I know it sounds funny, but we weren’t really sure what to do wtih them!! Thank goodness it came with instructions.
The funny thing is … I’ve had guests call and ask what to do with them!! lol So, I don’t think anyone will notice to be honest. But, you do whatever you fee comfortable with. That’s the important thing.
Post # 4
We don’t have inner envelopes. I don’t think many people will even know the difference! Maybe there are some older, more traditional people in my family who will notice, but oh well!
Post # 5
I am skipping it to stop wasting paper and to save money.
Post # 6
Hooray! Love the responses. Thanks everyone. How did you end up addressing singles and their guests?
Post # 7
We didnt have inner envelopes – honestly I had never even heard of inner envelopes until I came to the bee!
Post # 8
I am doing my own invites and saving a TON of $$$$. Thosr invites are pretty but i don’t think it is a big deal. I had a freind that did here invites on regular printer paper. I just can’t see spending hundreds of $$$$ on something that people are going to throw away, no matter how pretty they are.
Post # 9
I had the same moment of flipping out when I realized that my invitations didn’t have the inner envelopes too! But oh well, not many people do that these days, and look at the bright side – you’ll save on the postage!!
Post # 10
Mine did not come with inner envelopes either. I am a pretty traditional person, but I didn’t really care. My color was eggplant–I know how you feel about the purple thing:)
Post # 11
I had no idea inner envelopes were such a thing! I don’t think I’ve ever received a wedding invitation with two envelopes. So I’m going to just go with one. To me it seems redundant to have two envelopes and a huge waste of paper and money. I would stay with the invites you have without the extra envelope.
Post # 12
I decided against inner envelopes too. I just addressed to “Mr. John Smith and Guest”. Emily Post might have a heart attack, but it would’ve cost more for the envelopes, plus I was afraid I might need additional postage if they were heavier.
Post # 13
I’m not going to do an inner envelope. I am having a more casual wedding, but I wouldn’t have had inner envelopes even if I was (okay, well maybe if it was REALLY fancy, to get across that it would be, well, REALLY fancy!)
I think etiquette changes as times change. I don’t think most people even know what an inner envelope is, never mind expect one.
Post # 14
I believe that inner envelopes is an older tradition. Back in the day (seriously), the postal service was more rough and envelopes would get battered up. Therefore, the inner envelop helped to protect the invitation, so that people did not need to keep the outer envelope that had the most wear and tear.
Of all the wedding invites I have received, I have only received one with an inner envelope. I think it’s fine to not use it. If you want, Paper Source does sell a A7.5 envelope. You could get both the A7 and A7.5 so that they match.
Post # 15
We’re having both because we found them cheap and ordered them that way. As a MOB, I have a question:
I’m curious, if you don’t do inner envelopes, do families assume their kids can come? The purpose of the inner was to list the people who were actually being invited so have any of you had it work? I’m just curious????
Post # 16
inner envelopes are definitely an older tradition. just write whatever you would put on the inner envelope on the outer. if you don’t want to write “and guest,” just address it to the person and tell them in person that they can bring a guest.
@MasqueradeMom:if you don’t put the kids’ names on the envelope, the kids aren’t invited.