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It is completely normal to feel like that. I want to tell you that it will be ok. I would make a complaint with the apartment complex and I would also go to the local police station and file a report, they may patrol the area more often over the next few days, sometimes that is all that it takes to deter someone from breaking in. I'm happy that no one actually broke in and that you are all safe, that's the most important thing.
That's a horrible feeling. Thank goodness you're all safe! Definitely talk to your apartment office. It sounds like you've got some deterrents in place (having a dog that barks, motion-detecting lights outside). You might also want to talk to the police and report an attempted break-in, because the person may have also tried to break in to other homes in your area and it lets them be aware of potential problems.
I hope you regain your feelings of safety. It's a really scary feeling when you live in a place that you can't feel completely safe and secure. It's totally normal to be feeling this way.
Thank you guys so much. I really do feel better already. I just needed to get if off my chest and have a silent freakout.
@julies1949: I hope so. And it's pretty rare for no one to be home. At least one of us is here 90% of the time so that eases my mind a bit.
So sorry, but glad you're safe! Of course you're not crazy, I'd totally freak out too!
The good news is the would-be criminal probably won't come back to your apartment complex again, figuring people will be on watch/guard because of his attempt. And you have a great watch dog! Do you have a security system/alarm? That might make you feel more safe.
@everyheart: I hope you're right that the person won't return. A logical person would not, but then again, I don't know if would-be criminals are known for their logical thinking. And yeah, my dog is good for listening for things. He's small but he hears everything and barks. We don't have a security system, but we'll definitely look into after this.
I'm so glad he turned away, that is so scary! I've heard dogs are the best deterrant because they start barking immediately once they sense a stranger.
@moderndaisy: It is scary. It was very difficult to fall asleep last night and we left the living room light on all night. And come to think of it, my dog has helped ease my fears when I've thought I heard something before. I'll think something sounds odd and then remember that if there was something going on, my dog would definitely be barking.
I'm so sorry and can understand the worry, especially if it's your biggest fear.
It definitely gets better. We were broken into (daytime robbery) 8 days ago, and the first several days were a nightmare. I had trouble sleeping and kept replaying walking into the situation.
The one thing I will strongly encourage you to do - is to protect yourself as much as possible. It sounds like you have all the important things in place (dog, lights) - but secure your windows (make sure they all have good locks), and look into a security system, if you can. Also make sure you have proper insurance on the contents of your home and things are well documented (and you have additional insurance for high end valuables - there are certain limits to things - ask your ins broker!).
ETA: I got some great advice from the hive on how to cope - check this thread out - I hope it will help you too!
http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/has-anyone-been-burglarized-looking-for-help-coping
@oracle: I'm so sorry that happened to you! I can't even imagine :( And thank you so much for the advice. We do have insurance, thankfully, so if things are stolen they are covered. And my FI is looking at security systems right this minute. He went straight there after he got off work because he was very upset about it too. I think that will make me feel better more than anything.
@CarolinaCola: How scary. I can't believe your mom didn't call the cops. I would've have especially because I was alone!
So sorry to hear this though. One of my biggest fears is that someone will notice that we aren't home for an entire week when we go on our honeymoon. I want to put a deadbolt on our apartment door before we leave. Luckily, we live upstairs so no one can get through windows.
@MissPumpkinPie: I know!! But I guess she's always been like that. She always seems so tough and not scared of anything and I'm exactly the opposite.
I definitely understand that fear of someone noticing when you're not home. And living upstairs is a big plus. We live in a ground floor apartment, which I like because it's convenient, but I know I'd feel safer if we'd gone with a second or third floor one so people can't get into/see through our windows.
Definately report the incident to your local police. They should step up patroling the area. I also live in an apt building and when one of my neighbors had something happen, the police started including our parking lot into their regular rounds.
I'm sure you already know this but always lock your doors and windows and close your blinds.
Thank goodness for your dog :)
@CarolinaCola: Shoot, I would've crapped my pants and cried. Haha. I'm such a pansy. I hope that you're all safe though. Please keep us updated if there's anything to share.
@PinkPinstripes: My FI went by and told our office manager what happened. We actually have a police officer who lives in the complex who sort of works patrol and the manager said she would tell him and another officer so they'll beef up their patrolling of the area. And my FI just came home with a motion sensor alarm and he bought some pepper spray.
omg. This gave me the chills and the creeps. One of my biggest fears is looking through the window and seeing someone staring back at me ahhhh I'm so creeped out right now!!!!!!!!
Report it to the apartment complex/landlord. If they are aware they might be on the lookout for a few days. Yours might not be the only apt. this happened to last night...did any neighbors see anything?
@soyjoy222: I haven't talked to any of the neighbors. My FI and I don't really talk to/know anyone in the complex. But he did go tell the office yesterday so now they're aware of it.
It was soooo much easier to sleep last night having the motion sensor alarm on our patio that would go off if anyone was out there again.
@CarolinaCola: Glad it was reported. Hopefully it doesnt happen again and i'm glad you and your family is safe!
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So, my FI and I were away from home last night, and my mom was home (she lives with us). My FI and I have been home since about 1:00 this afternoon, but I didn't see my mom until about an hour ago. I was standing folding some clothes and she tells me that last night she fell asleep on the couch and woke up to our dog barking and heard the gate outside of our patio rattling and saw that our patio light (which is motion-sensored) had turned on. She said she looked through the blinds of the sliding glass door and saw a person and when they saw the blinds moving, they ran away. I'm FREAKING OUT right now. We don't live in a city that's known for safety, but I've always felt safe living here for the year that we've been here. My stomach is completely in knots and I have a lump in my throat just thinking about someone breaking into my home. I don't know how I got through folding the rest of those clothes without bursting into tears. Someone breaking in and hurting me or my family is one of my biggest fears.
My mom didn't call the police (even though I would have in a second if it were me who was home). But she's going to the apartment office tomorrow to tell them what happened, and if she doesn't, I will.
I'd be surprised if I am able to sleep tonight at all because I'll feel like I need to stay awake and just listen for anything unusual and stand guard. Ughhh. This is such a terrible feeling. Someone should be able to feel safe in their own home. Why would someone take that away from me?
I guess I just need someone to tell me that it'll be okay and I'm not crazy for being completely freaked out and terrified, even though no one actually broke in and no one was hurt...