- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
I’ve posted about my Bridesmaid or Best Man before. Basically she’s been a bit crap. Anything I’ve asked her to do (very, very little) she’s not done. She’s actually ignored and admitted to ignoring me for the space of 3 weeks – i’m still not sure why. She’s not offered any help to my sister who’s organising everything and has dragged her feet with all the easy stuff.
I’ve bought her a £190 dress, paid for her hair and make up and nails. She’s staying with us here for free so the only thing she’s had to buy are her shoes and make the 2 hour trip here which I also offered to pay for so I’m feeling a little resentful at her reticence.
I’ve never hassled her. I’m sure of this. After she went A-wall for 3 weeks I called her to make sure she was ok and nothing personal was going on. She seemed fine and excited about the wedding – so no issue. 2 weeks ago (maybe from guilt) she e mailed my sister saying she was going to e mail the 4 other girls the details of my hen do to make sure they were all ok with it – (i’d already planned the minimum amount of stuff for the hen do at almost no cost to anyone and I had checked they were happy with it – while Bridesmaid or Best Man went a-wall).
Today one of the girls texted me asking for hen do details i.e Bridesmaid or Best Man had not e mailed anyone with any of the details. Again, she’s doing nothing. Now I don’t expect her to run around after me and I get she’s busy. But she’s being entirely sh1t and if she didn’t have time to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man, why did she say yes and let me spend so much on her. She could have said no with no hard feelings.
Now i’m fairly angry and don’t know what to do. Am I being unreasonable? No point in asking her to step down as everything is paid up already…what would you do?
Hope this made sense.