- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
(I posted this over in ‘waiting’ this morning and thought I should post it here too!)
I’ve been expecting this for a few months, so every time anything out of the ordinary happens my ‘omg maybe this is it!’ spidey sense tingles. Yesterday I started to get suspicious that this might be it when he became really silent and thoughtful, then came over beside the bed where I was lying down with my laptop, and just STARED at me, for like 20 minutes! I was like ‘oh…hey! Wanna come up and look at some jobs with me?’ shook his head ‘wanna just.. keep staring at me like that?’ nods. Then he slowly started to close the laptop screen and I realized he was holding a ring, and was on one knee!! And he kind of quietly and shyly said, “Will you marry me?”
Cue lots of hugs and ‘of course I will!’s. We were having dinner with his parents that night anyway, and he said I had to tell his mom. I showed her the ring and she was so happy she started to cry! And then I cried. And then his dad came in and he cried too. Oh boy, haha. Then his mom went to her office and brought back this special pair of champagne flutes that she had *already* bought in anticipation of this day. And the champagne that she had ready just in case. And my SO brought in the champagne that he had left outside to cool a little while earlier.
He told me afterward that he did bring the ring on our ski trip, and he’s had it with him constantly for a while now, but he had been too afraid to propose until now! I can’t imagine that he was afraid I would say no, I don’t really understand! But oh well, I suppose it does take a lot of courage. I think he just needed a little bit of prodding / encouragement. He had the ring so obviously he was basically ready… but he just needed to be reminded of how this is the plan, we’re both on the same page, we have a rapidly approaching timeline for starting our family, it’s time. For the past few days we’ve been discussing houses – where we want to live, how much money we have to work with, whether / where we should rent together first. A couple of days ago I just blatently told him that whenever he is ready to buy a house together, I am ready. No pressure, I know he wants to wait until we have a bigger downpayment saved up – but I told him whenever he is ready, I am ready. Another potentially relevant conversation we had just a few days ago involved hearing something about a girl we know who is dating a married man, who has a new baby … I was so upset to hear about this and made a few comments like ‘it’s things like this that make me afraid to have children!!’ Later that night, at his house, I said ‘I have to apologize for those comments, I was just upset and it made me a bit scared. I know you’re one of the good ones.’ and he said “But how can you be sure?” (we have had some conversations acknowledging that nothing in relationships or in life is ever a guarantee and we accept that) I said “Well, I can’t be absolutely sure, but given what I know so far, I am confident in taking my chances.”
Right before he proposed, we were in his room talking about houses. We started talking about where we might live together, if we are to rent for a while before we buy a house. Then he started to get all silent and thoughtful. I figured he was thinking nice thoughts, like about where we are going to live and create a home together. So rather than push the issue and talk more about our future plans, I just sat there silently with him for a while, hugging him, then I gave him a back rub. After a while I went to sit on the bed with my laptop, and that’s when he came over to the bed and knealt next to me and just started watching me all creepy-like, haha… and the rest is history!
I can’t wait to start planning for real (although who am I kidding, I have entire ‘lyrics videos’ youtube playlists of songs I want in my wedding, most of a guest list, an idea of the picture I want to use as our save the date….).