(Closed) just got engaged… and i am so sad and devastated

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
14498 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

That was just wrong and hurtful, I am so sorry she did that.  Don’t let her horrible behavior spoil your wonderful night, then she wins.

Congrats on your engagement!  Let’s see some ring porn.

Post # 4
1290 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

She obviously just cannot let go and I am sorry! HUGS and let’s see that ring!!!!

Post # 5
106 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

She sounds like she is just not ready to let go of her baby yet. Give it time. Dont let her run you off or step on your toes. Now is the time YOU AND HIM are building your life together. She can be part of that or not. She has to understand that he isnt always going to be there at a drop of a hat. Dont let her take away your special day.

Kinda sucks that she was so taken back by all this. Especially to where she wasnt mature enough not to keep her cool and hold her negative comments to herself. You FIANCE needs to make sure to have a back bone and make sure his mom knows that you are in his life to stay. That she did wrong and owes you an apology. You deserve it. You didnt do anything wrong.

Not trying to be mean.. but he needs to stick up for you. Stop calling her.. she is just playing a game. Let her cool off and let her make the phone call to talk about things.

Post # 6
1235 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Dont let her hurt you..I have a Future Mother-In-Law from hell too who ruined my happy newly-engaged time and I still resent her for it. Just ignore her comments, if you and your SO are happy then what is it to her even if you DO keep him on a tight leash and are spoiled.

You could always confront her about it and ask her why she feels this way. 100% sure she would back track and look like a fucking idiot.

Post # 7
213 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Your FI’s mom sounds like the controlling one, not to mention manipulative! Don’t feel so bad, maybe they’ll warm up to you. Your Fiance should definitely have a chat with his parents though!! Good luck with everything and CONGRATS! Don’t worry, be happy ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 8
5118 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

*Hugs* Well congrats on the engagement!

Don’t let her win the day by making you sad, enjoy being engaged to your FIANCE! Eeep! It sounds like she’s having issues ‘letting go of her baby.’ Yeah, she’s his mom, but you’re his future wife, and you’re the new #1. Hopefully she’ll come around, just try to be as polite as possible and kill her with kindness (and make sure that Fiance is the one putting her in her place, no need to get involved in that mess!) Ring porn?! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 9
4150 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Oh my gosh, I’m so sorry!  I agree with tks – let’s see some ring porn to celebrate such an amazing event.  Congratulations and I hope you can salvage some specialness from this day.

Post # 10
3847 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

The important thing here is how he reacted to her behavior.  If he is on your side then he loves you and is standing by you and that is something to celebrate.

Post # 11
2125 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

eeh…let it roll off. She’s clearly got her knickers in a buch over the recent incident…once she cools off she will be warm up to it.  The announcement just came at a bad time it looks like. 

my Future Mother-In-Law just said “that’s nice” when we announced it….lol. People react in the weirdest ways.

Post # 12
187 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

First of all CONGRATULATIONS! That should be the first thing every couple hears, and it sounds like you Future Mother-In-Law maybe was caught off gaurd by the proposal?  My Fiance told everyone in the world he was going to propose beforehand, so noone was surprised, but do you think maybe his mother is a little hurt that she didn’t know he was going to propose before he did.  I guess I’m trying to find some possible way to make it right how she responded but it’s not.  Anyone who loves their child should be supportive of the person they choose to spend the rest of their life with. I’m sorry that happened, on your engagement day of all times. Hope to hear an update! 

and until then… Go celebrate your new status!!

Post # 14
573 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Update? I know you mentioned on another thread that you updated the situation, but I can’t find it! 

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