Post # 1
I just got engaged three weeks ago (the day after Christmas) to my wonderful FH! Yay! This is my first time posting, but I have been lurking on the site for a while. I’ve even picked up some of the lingo 😉
The proposal was amazing and completely unexpected! …Well, not completely, because we have been together for over 4 years and had talked about the future, but I didn’t think it would happen until next year!!
I am already feeling a little overwhelmed by what I’ve read on here. I was definitely not the little girl who always dreamed of a wedding (though I did have quite a thing for naming future children) and now I feel like I have a lot of catching up to do. Where should I start?!
I am very happy to be engaged to the love of my life! I think I will have a sense of peace when we set a date. My FH wants to get married in the summer, which I was initially against for a few reasons: 1. It’s hot and I am a sweater! 2. Everything is more expensive in the summer! 3. October and April are my favorite months to go to weddings 4. Did I mention I sweat a lot? Anyway, I got over that pretty quickly and decided summer was a good time, since we both work in schools and will be able to take plenty of time for a honeymoon.
However, now we are trying to decide if we want to do it in 2015 or 2016. I go back and forth because on the one hand, I’m super excited and want to get married ASAP (hello 2015)! But, on the other hand, I am a type-A/control freak/stress ball who is working 30-40 hours a week and in grad school full time (4 classes/semester). I already feel like I am on overload, and I’ll be graduating in June of 2015, so I feel like having the wedding in 2016 would give me plenty of time to plan, relax, and enjoy being engaged. BUT summer of 2016 is 29 months away – that seems soooo far. What do y’all think?!
Here are some pics! Please excuse the condition of my hands/nails! Haha I actually did have a manicure the night he proposed since it was the day after Christmas, but these pictures were taken in better lighting conditions.
Post # 3
@newt11: congrats! i would say sooner than later, but it depends because you are in school. when do you graduate?
Post # 4
@newt11: congrats! Summer of 2015 is 18months away at this point.. Id shoot for then! I actually just got engaged and that’s currently our plan, unless we absolutely can’t wait and then we will go for this fall.
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@Washingtonian: Thanks! I graduate June of 2015!
Post # 7
@jessicadarling: Thanks! Congrats to you too! I definitely think 2015 is doable, but I’ll probably be very stressed most of the time haha
Post # 8
I’m having a 3 year engagement for similar reasons, and honestly I’m LOVING every minute of it. The time goes by so quickly!
So I’d advise you to relax and enjoy…but then, I never had to be a “waiting bee” and will not be considering children for many, many years, so while I am very excited to get married I never felt any sense of time pressure, that it needed to be sooner. Other women will certainly have a different perspective!
Post # 9
Have you conisdered getting married Memorial Day weekend? That’s what I’m doing – no one invited to my wedding has any MDW traditions. You’ll have a solid 3-day weekend to deal with the wedding, and then it’s not too far away from the summer for a honeymoon! Plus it’s earlier in the year so its not as hot (I’m a sweater too!)
I also hear a lot of people who take their honeymoon asap get a little depressed since everything is all over so quickly. This way you’ll still have something to look forward to! Just a thought!
Post # 10
@newt11: Congratulations! Your ring is very beautiful 🙂 When my FI proposed in November of 2012, I had a year left of school. I didn’t want to rush the planning process and feel stressed about it. So I decided I wanted to wait to get married until October 2014, making our engagement about two years long. I think there are elements of a long engagement that can be frustrating, but I really believe that it’s a great way to go if you are still in school. I knew that if I were to get heavily into wedding planning while pursuing my master’s, something wouldn’t be done as well as I wanted it to. When you do a long engagement, you can have every vendor that you want- no one is booked when you’re booking that far out! It also allows you to take your time and not feel pressured to make any quick decisions. Just my two cents!
Post # 11
Congrats! I would also do June of 2015. That’s 18 months–Tons of time!
Post # 12
Congratulations! What a beautiful ring! I just graduated with my Masters degree, and I had a couple of friends in Masters and PhD programs get married while in school. It wasn’t exactly a cakewalk, but they made it work and had beautiful weddings. If I had been presented with that scenario, I would have chosen to get married sooner while in school and eat the extra stress than wait the extra year-ish. I’m just impatient like that 😉 Best of luck!
Post # 13
My engagement is 24 months. I love it, wouldnt have it any other way, and am a very busy law student. I get to focus on my studies and excel in school while planning details and getting exactly what i want for the big day– the best of both worlds.
Wedding planning is fun! I loved drinking wine, listening to music, and assembling our save the dates and putting wax seals on them with my FH. It was relaxing. I loved picking out favors and invites. I dont know if i would if i was in a hurry and trying to do wedding and law school at the same time— both can be demanding.
Do what you want and if thats a long engagement go for it. F*** people who make snarky comments about your engagement being pointless because its so long (thats what ive been doing). It flys by!
Post # 14
Hi @newt11: As this is your DEBUT Post on WBee… a BIG Welcome to “the Hive”
GORGEOUS Ring !!
2016, and 29 months off is a long long time in my month (too long for me)
I strongly believe that the ideal amount of time to be engaged is around 1 year… plenty of time to plan a Wedding no matter the size
So I’d opt for Summer 2015 … Gradutate in June, marry in July or August (although September or October in Rhode Island, would probably be AWESOME too)
Hope this helps,
Post # 15
Gorgeous ring! I vote October 2015 since you’ll be done with school and have plenty of time to plan! I’m finishing grad school this may and getting married this June so i’m definitely stressed but it’s not toooo much! I feel it’s doable. Ps, CONGRATS!
Post # 16
@newt11: YAY Congratulations on your engagement! You must be over the moon excited! This is the advice I just gave my best friend as she just got engaged recently – you and your fiance have to enjoy this moment in time! Then later have a talk on what would be best for you two, no one else! I’m partial to the 2 year engagement because it worked out better for me and my husband but that’s just how things fell into place for us. Good luck on whatever you decide to do!